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The Gift of Authenticity

Dear friend,

Welcome to the last month of the year! 

Over the past week, I have been reflecting on what my focus was this year and where I want to head in 2022. The winter Solstice – which is December 21 – reminds me to turn inward to find the nourishment I need to grow and evolve. It's a kind of turning point for me, and I see it as sacred and critical. 

As I write this, I realize that I’m right on track! 

I usually set my intention for the New Year in early January. One of my private intentions for 2021 was to step up my level of authenticity and co-holding of my relationships. 

This pledge has been challenging to live… I had several conversations over the year that were painful for me and others for whom I cared deeply. Sometimes I felt good about how I expressed myself and my ability to hear others, and other times I mourned the way I expressed myself because the level of pain I was feeling was greater than my ability to hold others empathically. 

Sometimes I was in awe at how I and another person could navigate really painful topics with grace. There are some relationships like this that are bigger than the pain we share, and more resilient than our desires to run when discomfort presents itself. 

These are the relationships that I especially cherish. 

So, why take such risk in relationships? None of us are completely honest. I wouldn’t tell someone that their outfit or hair or home didn’t meet my need for beauty, for instance, though it might be an honest statement. 

I spoke up because there was something in each relationship that was so compelling it was affecting my ability to connect with or enjoy … something that tugged so greatly that I couldn’t let it go: something in the relationship that mattered so much that I was willing to risk my authenticity

These conversations were painful, yes, but also liberating because I: 

  • Took greater responsibility for expressing my needs 
  • Discovered old trauma that I have begun to heal bit by bit 
  • Have greater inner clarity and connection to what matters to me, and 
  • Am stepping into life with even greater purpose. 

hrough all of it I have discovered the existence of an abundance of gifts if I'm willing to dive in and mine for them. In fact, that is how I plan to spend this month and the Solstice: with further internal mining in an effort to prepare myself for 2022.

Maybe I will meet you there! 

Wishing you peace… 

CNVC Certified Trainer and Co-Founder, NVC Academy

end of this section Monthly Gift. The Gift of Conflict. Yoram Mosenzon. How do you solve a conflict? By not trying to solve it! Yoram suggests building your conflict resolution muscles by practicing connecting to the needs behind the conflict instead. Check out this excerpt from Session 1 of his 2021 course, Connecting in Conflict and the Art of Navigating Dialogue. Listen. Feel intrigued – and inspired – by Yoram's approach to conflict resolution? Then you might enjoy his December course, Intimate Relationships: The Tiniest Details Make the Difference. Check it out and see what you think! end of this section Our hearts are indeed broken open. Beloved trainer Robert Gonzales passed on November 19, 2021. His cherished wife, Ruth Joy, was by his side. We will miss him terribly. Mary Mackenzie, Mark Schultz, and the entire NVC Academy team. end of this section Courses and Events Beginning in December. All times are Pacific (California) Time. Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being. —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

Transforming Shame, Inviting Joy: An Online Retreat
Sarah Peyton
Friday - Tuesday, December 3 - 7 (five days, 26 hours; times vary)

Restoring Togetherness: Needs Choreography as a Path to Collective Liberation
Miki Kashtan
Monday - Wednesday, December 13 - 15 • 11:00am - 12:30pm

Intimate Relationships: The Tiniest Details Make the Difference
Yoram Mosenzon
Mondays and Wednesdays, December 20 - 29 • 9:30am - 12:30pm

New Year's Peace Meditation (FREE!)
Mary Mackenzie
Friday, December 31 • 3:00pm - 3:20pm

Ongoing Courses

Taste of Compassionate Leadership: FREE
Jim Manske, Jori Manske, and Guest Trainers
No session in December

In the Spotlight: NVC and the Holidays. Would you enjoy having an NVC tune-up before any more of the holiday season flies by? We have what you are looking for! In this excerpt, CNVC Certified Trainer Mary Mackenzie shares a few of her tried-and-true Self-Empathy techniques. And… this particular excerpt is focused around the unique challenges of the holiday season! Listen.

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