John Kinyon 

About John Kinyon

CNVC Certified Trainer from El Sobrante,

John Kinyon is a trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), a leading member of its global network and organization, and a co-founder of the BayNVC organization . He facilitates communication training and conflict resolution with individuals, groups, and organizations in settings ranging from workshops, presentations, and practice groups to coaching in personal and professional contexts. John has a background in clinical psychology, and also has a long study of spiritual practice and principles of nonviolence. He has worked closely with NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg since 1998 and is regularly invited by Dr. Rosenberg to be a co-trainer with him at 9-day international intensive retreats. He is regularly invited to give presentations and workshops in different parts of the U.S. and internationally. In 2002, he provided Nonviolent Communication training to Afghan tribal elders along the Pakistani border.

John received his B. A. from the University of San Francisco, where he majored in studies of psychology and philosophy and played for their nationally ranked soccer team. He went on to receive an M. S. degree in clinical psychology from Penn State University, spending 5 years of doctoral training working as a psychotherapist with individuals and groups and as a research assistant at the Penn State Stress and Anxiety Disorders Institute. He then started and developed a small business in the gourmet food industry before becoming a full time communication trainer. John lives with his beautiful wife and 2 children at their home in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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Transforming Inner Pain and Conflict: The “Chooser – Educator” Model of Self-Empathy

A Telecourse Recording with John Kinyon

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In this segment, John introduces the “Chooser – Educator” model of self-empathy with a personal example.

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forest roadSelf-empathy is a way to transform the inner suffering of anger, guilt, shame, depression and anxiety by working with the thinking in us that leads to such feelings. Self-empathy can also be approached from the perspective of resolving inner conflict; and that outer conflict with others is ultimately a reaction to inner conflict between parts of ourselves.

In this telecourse recording, John Kinyon offers his approach to working with the “Chooser-Educator” model of self-empathy, originally developed by NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg. This process helps us connect more wholistically with our experience in a compassionate way by empathizing with both the part of us that chooses the actions we take and the part that evaluates and judges those actions. John demonstrates how to put inner conflict into a “three chair model”, developed with colleague Ike Lasater in their NVC Mediation training. This process includes role play and rotating roles to maximize experiential learning from multiple perspectives of experience and feedback. John demonstrates and offers real time, in-the-moment coaching throughout.

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Recorded during July, 2009

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