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Living NVC on a Daily Basis

mary-mackenzie-150I’m excited about starting my blog.  I’ve thought long and hard about what I wanted the content to be.  Finally, I decided that the mundane task of living NVC on a daily basis complete with all the foibles, missed opportunities for connection, downright blatant jackal voices, and the continual re-commitment to living NVC is where I wanted to put my focus.  I am passionate about the value of focusing on self, not at the exclusion of others, but rather as an acknowledgment that the best chance I have of living in a peaceful world is if I live peacefully myself.  I am no longer excited about social change outside myself.  I know that if I am successful at living peacefully, I create peace.

I was recently listening to NPR (National Public Radio) and a story came up about a pediatrician in the United States who had been molesting children for decades.  At the time of the report over 130 children (now adults) had come forward with complaints.  I literally groaned out loud, turned off the radio and then started praying.  I thought, “Bless all the children involved.  Bless their families.  Bless every person or animal who they have ever interacted with or with whom they will ever interact.  Bless the pediatrician.  Bless the pediatrician’s family…”

As the impact of one person’s actions began to take shape I cried hard as the overwhelm of it took hold.

Then, after crying hard for a few minutes, I felt an internal shift.  Suddenly, I was filled with hope, love and gratitude because I started going through the same process with regard to our world’s collective growth of consciousness.  Then I started to think, “Thank you for every single person who has ever been affected or will ever be affected by my growing consciousness, and every individual person in the world’s growing consciousness…”

I realized that we can feel utterly overwhelmed with the state of our world and negate our own power in shifting it.  And when we negate our power, we forget how profoundly important it is to focus on “being” the presence in the world we want.

This is no small task.  I believe it requires daily, sometimes moment-by-moment focus and commitment, taking responsibility for our part in any pain or violence in our world, and consciously shifting our course as a result.

So, on this day, I commit my blog to this small, simple topic of living in peace and integrity in my own life, thus supporting whatever sphere of influence I have, knowing that it is enough. My focus will be on living in NVC and presence to expand the peace I experience (and the peace I demonstrate) in my world.

Peace to whomever reads this,

Mary Mackenzie, Flagstaff, Arizona

Tags: NVC Consciousness

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    tam

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    thank you for this mary

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    Celeste Roth

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    hmm, i want to get your blog sent to me. I want to subscribe. This is great. I need online NVC inspiration/support because my life has changed and i can’t get to the practice meetings nearly as often as before.

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    Jackie

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    Mary – Thank you so much for these thoughts. I had a similar reaction to hearing this story about the pediatrician and it was if I became covered in goo. The way you have turned it inside out is very profound and really speaks to the intention of your blog. A great opening post! Thank you.
    Jackie in Wisconsin

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    Jackie

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    Mary – I too read this story about the pediatrician and had a similar reaction. I felt like I was covered in goo. The way that you have turned this inside out is really profound. A great opening post for your blog! Thank you.
    Jackie in Wisconsin

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    Ronny Weinberger

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    Hi Mary,
    I feel inspired and moved to read your posts and celebrating many needs being met: connection, inspiration, companionship, development….there are many more…

    Is there a way to get these posts in a “push” mode to my mail?
    With gratitude,
    Ronny

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    Mary Mackenzie

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    Hi Ronny. Thank you for the feedback. Yes, there is a way to “push” the emails. On my blog page there is a pink button with an envelope. Click that and you should start receiving the blogs in your email.
    Warm regards,
    Mary

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    clare

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    Dear Mary, I’d like to tell you that your weekly NVC Academy postings and your book Peaceful Living have greatly supported and contributed to increasing my understanding of compassion and given me practical tools to set my intention for more awareness and to develop alternatives to my habits. In gratitude and with appreciation, Clare F, New Zealand

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    Tania

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    Dear Mary, I wont you to know that I deeply appreciate and am inspired by your way of thinking. Love from Greece, Tania.

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    Mick

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    Thank you Mary for starting this conversation on your blog. it is inspiring to see folks willing to do this most important work.

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