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Years ago, Marshall Rosenberg said, “Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value.”

I have been sitting with this phrase during these devastating months of 2020, pondering what it is that each of us needs and values, and revisiting what exactly it is that I need and value. What comes up for me is connection. Compassion. Empathy. Clarity. To be seen and heard for our outrage. And for life to be equitable for us all.

But it isn’t.

Incidents of racism and discrimination – from tiny, easy-to-miss interactions that can traumatize in their repeated nature, to sudden and horrible killings – occur daily in our streets, our homes, where we work, in our places of worship, and our schools…

We have an undeniable problem, and we have work to do. We all have work to do.

Black lives matter.

We at the NVC Academy stand in solidarity with those who are protesting nonviolently across the world. We yearn to see an end to the violence and systemic racism that has had a chokehold on our country. The NVC Academy team chooses to educate ourselves on issues of racism and privilege and to offer educational opportunities to others.

As an individual, here are three things that I am doing to take action TODAY, and I hope you will join me:

  • Donate to your local Black Lives Matter organization, the global Black Lives Matter Foundation, or any other organization that is taking action in alignment with your values
  • Donate to local non-profit organizations that are run by or support people of color
  • Make a point to seek out and do business with companies, corporations, banks, or shops that are run by people of color

Here are a number of resources that you may find helpful in expanding your own understanding of the issues related to systemic racism and privilege:

NONFICTION BOOKS

  • How to Be an Anti-Racist, by Ibram X. Kendi
  • White Fragility, by Robin DiAngelo
  • The New Jim Crow, by Michelle Alexander
  • So You Want to Talk About Race, by Ijeoma Oluo

BOOKS FOR PARENTS WITH KIDS

PODCASTS / VIDEOS

PUDDLEDANCER PRESS

NVC MULTIMEDIA LIBRARY

NVC MARKETPLACE

I hope this list is supportive to you, and that you will join me in taking some kind of action today.

We have hundreds of years of history to rethink, and creating systems that truly value everyone is beyond most of our imaginations. Quick solutions seem impossible and naïve to dream of. And yet, I know individual action makes a difference – and doing nothing leaves me feeling even less hopeful that things will shift. I acknowledge that the actions I take today may not be seen or felt in my lifetime, yet they do have an impact and will be felt in the future.


We at the NVC Academy are holding you so tenderly in our hearts these days… Each of us is deeply aware that you and other members of our beloved community may need additional support during the coming months…

I want to invite you to count on us: we are here for you.

First, we are now offering several courses designed to help trainers upscale their ability to teach online, and supporting trainer teams in hosting large NVC gatherings. The NVC Conference – usually held in Southern California each spring – was the first of these events. Last weekend we hosted it on Zoom, and it was phenomenal: well over 300 people from every corner of the world registered!

Second, we have added newlive courses as well as crafted and curated resources that can help you navigate, rethink, and transform any challenges you may be facing. We hope these offerings provide you with a sense of support:

Free Resources
Help with stress, anger, fear, depression, rethinking this crisis, taking action (and more).

  1. Apart and Together: Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times
    This crisis is an opportunity to shift habits, join forces, and respond freshly in ways that seemed impossible before.
  2. How to Stay Calm during a Pandemic
    Take a look at emotional-physiological regulation, self-empathy for fear and anxiety, and meaningful engagement.
  3. And much more, including meditation, course recordings, and articles!

NVC Multimedia Library Resources
Subscription required.

  1. Using NVC When the Going Gets Rough
    Discover the unexpected benefits of intense, overwhelming emotions.
  2. Fearless Loving and Living
    Master fear, transform scarcity, graduate to a gifting / receiving economy, and more.
  3. Embracing Your Emotions: Honoring the Wisdom of BIG Emotions
    Check out this POWERFUL course recording!

Live NVC Courses
Join us at one of our next live Zoom courses: registration is now open.

  1. Your Resonant Self Immersion Program: A Revolutionary Online Retreat
    Maintain your inner calm in the face of life’s challenges (starts May 8).
  2. Jump In Now: Facilitation Basics
    Clarify and accentuate your personal teaching style. Build a strong NVC network and support system (starts May 21).
  3. And much more.

Downloads

  1. Financial Integrity
    Create a relationship with money that is clear, empowered, purposeful, and stress-free.
  2. Living with the Power of Gratitude
    Rather than finding yourself at the mercy of challenging events, learn how to become a co-creator of life and a healing influence!
  3. Dealing with Loss: Coming Back to Life
    Unearth and process the feelings and issues that get tangled up with loss.

We hope you enjoy these resources, and find them to be of support.

In the meanwhile, may you experience nurturing… may you have moments of inner peace… and may you remember that you are loved.

Wishing you health and well being…


Brrrrr. Are you feeling winter? I am. I just missed a week of work due to the flu, and I am still feeling a little punk. As I sit down to write this letter, I realize a lot of things that are important to me are taking the back burner. Things like working out, any number of tasks around the house, and my work “to-do” items. Instead, I work for a few hours and take a nap. Eat a meal, take a nap. Work for a few more hours. Take a nap…

It’s slow and steady and completely focused on my body’s need for healing.

In a way, I’ve enjoyed it. Not the flu symptoms, of course, but this opportunity to be so clearly tuned in to self and health. In this state, it’s pretty easy to decide what the priorities are because my body is so screaming for healing. For instance, I don’t feel only a little tired for nap: my eyes are struggling to stay open and sleep must happen… NOW.

It is also much easier for me to say no to someone when they ask me for something that stretches my willingness. Right now it is easier to prioritize, and easier to surrender to my inner call for health and wellbeing.

I would like to get better at living this way without having a health issue. How about you?

To me, that would look like:


Lately, I’ve been ruminating on aging.

Eight months ago, I turned 60 and I’m still letting it in. Suddenly, retirement isn’t a lifetime away. Suddenly, I’m watching myself physically age faster than I’ve noticed or even fathomed before. Suddenly, I’m aware of the potential of having just a few decades left rather than what seemed like an endless length of time.

I don’t feel old… yet time seems more precious than it ever had before. My oldest and dearest friend died in March, so tending to my relationships has taken on a new, laser-sharp focus.

I’m increasingly aware that something inside me is shifting towards what’s most important, such as how and with whom I want to spend my time, and what my priorities are for the next 10 years. My definition of and experience of beauty and wisdom are also taking on new meaning. And self-care takes up more time and and has grown in importance in my physical and emotional life.

These aren’t bad things. They’re new things. I recently read a quote from Parker Palmer, one of my favorite authors, where he said, “I want to collaborate with aging.”