What happens when empathy isn't enough?
It is deeply distressing when you and the people you love keep getting into the same argument again and again with no resolution or change. If you then look at the outer world, you might wonder how all of humanity can possibly work through the deep issues that divide us, such as our political differences, infidelity, betrayal, acts of violence, world events, racism, intergenerational trauma, or unhealed wounds from childhood.
If you have received empathy for these issues from multiple sources, and still there is no significant relief, then you might even start to question the effectiveness of empathy and your own capacity to heal.
This is where an understanding of the neurobiology of trauma and resonance is vital to supporting healing and connection in long-term relationships.
Realizing what trauma is – a phenomenon that affects us all – increases your self-compassion and gives you solid ground to stand on. Then, when you begin to integrate the tool of unconscious contract work, you can become intimate with your own survival strategies and those of the people you love, and begin moving toward healing and integrating difficult events.
What a gift to give those you love – and what a gift to give yourself.