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By Sylvia Haskvitz, April 16, 2010 10:42 AM

A Telephone Course with Trainers Sylvia Haskvitz and Raj Gill

Find peace through awareness and insight even when dealing with difficult situations!

3 consecutive Tuesdays, April 27 – May 11, 2010, 12:00 Noon – 2:00 PM PDT

This course is designed to draw our attention to choices even when we face challenges beyond our control. Take this course and learn practical skills to:

• Translate judgments of yourself and others into an awareness of Needs
• Focus inwardly to experience the moments of physical and emotional Feelings
• Take an inner-witness stance, cultivating mindfulness of the present moment experience
• Be present to your experience with care and tenderness, experiencing the preciousness of your unmet needs without judging and blaming
• Develop an awareness of your thinking versus your feeling; your judging versus your observing

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By Kelly Bryson, April 14, 2010 6:46 AM

Trust Based Relationships

A Telephone Course (Telecourse) with Kelly Bryson
8 almost consecutive Wednesdays, May 26-July 21

• Tired of struggling with control, cooperation and communication issues in your relationships?
• Tired of living in the Fear of Abandonment?

Trust based relationships is a whole new paradigm for relating based on Trust, Transparency, NVC, Conscious Intention Setting, Natural Giving, Release and Choicefulness instead of Agreements, Expectations, Coercion, Traditional Roles, and Control.

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By Mary Mackenzie, April 12, 2010 5:16 PM

I’m sitting here staring at my computer wondering what to write.  The thing that is most alive in me right now is too embarrassing to write about, I say to myself.  “Pick something less revealing.”  Unfortunately, nothing has come to mind after staring at the computer for 10 minutes so here goes, warts and all.

I met with a dear group of friends for our monthly book club meeting this Saturday.  I got VERY triggered, my jackals were howling in my brain and finally I left rather abruptly.   During the 2 hour gathering I had tried self-empathy and I made a few requests that weren’t well connected to needs and one could even argue about whether they were clear, doable requests, but the point is I made an attempt at shifting the situation and my experience of it.  To no avail, though.  I left shut down and in tears.

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By Mary Mackenzie, April 7, 2010 3:00 PM

Attend this 4-Day NVC Workshop in Bainbridge Island, Washington

Empathy as a Way of Being:
Four Transformative Days of Learning to Live a More Compassionate Life

An in-person NVC Academy Workshop in Bainbridge Island, Washingtonwith CNVC Certified Trainers Mary Mackenzie and Kathleen Macferran
Wednesday, April 28, 1:00-6:00 pm through Saturday, May 1 at 12:00 noon

Fee:  $350 (meals and lodging not included and managed by each individual)

Empathy As a Way of Being is designed for intermediate or advanced NVC practitioners who want to deepen their empathic presence.

Atttend this workshop and:

• Take your empathy skills to the next level
• Increase your self-compassion
• Deepen your own persona healing
• Find out what prevents you from giving empathy and learn ways to maintain your presence
• Enhance your skills for empathic connection
• Explore street empathy for natural flow in your connections

Requested experience level: Significant facility using NVC in your daily life.  Completed at least 20 or more hours of NVC training.

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By Mary Mackenzie, April 2, 2010 9:56 PM

Yesterday was April Fool’s Day.  This is a day when people play tricks on each other.   My mother enjoyed playing little tricks on people so April Fool’s Day was one of her favorite holidays.  One year when I was a little girl we were at the dinner table on April Fool’s Day when Mom said to my father, “John, did you notice anything unusual today?”  “No” he said.  “ANYTHING DIFFERENT ABOUT YOUR UNDERWEAR TODAY?” “Oh!  Yes, I thought I had put them on backward and so I just dealt with it.”  My mother was disappointed.  Apparently, she had sewn the fly in his boxers shut the night before.  My father had noticed a dilemma but had assumed he put his boxers on backwards and so just adjusted to it for the rest of the day.  We all thought that was hilarious.

This funny little story has been running through my head for the last two days.  This morning I realized that I often respond to things as my father did.  If something goes wrong, I assume it was my fault in some way and I adjust to the current circumstances.

I recently got a letter from the IRS which stated that a mistake had been made in my 2008 taxes.  I was certain I’d made a mistake.  So, I took my letter to my accountant, apologizing.  The mistake was his, actually, and not mine at all.  I left his office elated even though I owed the IRS more money.

Why is this?  Why do I (and my father and so many people) assume that we are wrong?  Or even that anyone has to be wrong?

I think it’s a core belief that we aren’t good enough, or that we’re not worthwhile.  Each time we believe this old, outdated thought, we negate our true self, our beautiful, spiritual self that has value and purpose just because we are breathing.

I’m taking a deep breath just writing this now.  I remember watching my mother hang on to life, frail as a rail, unable to feed herself, or even talk but she had breath, precious, life-giving breath.  I realized then that as long as we breathe we are spiritual beings with value.

I’d like to remember this more often.  It’s so easy to get hung up on thinking I’m supposed to do something, be better, or create an improved model of myself.  Today I want to remember that I am already good enough and this present moment is all that matters.  When I remember this, there’s no need for right/wrong thinking.

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