Fear of Negative Consequences
Audio
8 minutes
03/04/2016
Miki responds to a participant’s question concerning fear of consequences when speaking with a manager at work. In this excerpt, she delves into the topic of choosing to inhabit nonviolence in the workplace, affirming that fear and nonviolence are incompatible, and that nonviolence is a powerful alternative to our habitual Fight, Flight, Freeze responses.
Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan
Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan
Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes
02/17/2017
Listen as Miki works with participants. Topics: how small requests serve interdependence; NVC process vs purpose; how to respond when empathy is used to create distance; coping with verbal aggression, and more!
Self Assessment Matrix
Learning Tool
00:28 hours:minutes
1/2010
This self-assessment matrix is a concrete step toward naming and clarifying many skills that you may find valuable in your life. We suggest you periodically assess your skills to track your progress.
NVC Life Hacks: 31 Learning from Limitations
Video
8 minutes
10/8/2022
Whenever we make mistakes, we're often beating ourself up in a way that breeds guilt, fear and/or shame. Nonviolent Communication offers a model based in self-empathy that lets you reflect, process and move forward without the guilt, fear and shame.
Practices For Requesting
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
1/17/2022
Practice making requests for feedback, clarity, and action. Opportunities for making requests might be when you expected something different from what you got, were treated undesirably, and noticed inner constriction or reactivity. Identify observations, feelings, and values to support finding the request. Ensure your request states what you want, is specific, names the present-tense action, and that you're open to feedback.
Living with the Power of Gratitude (2 Session Course)
Living with the Power of Gratitude (2 Session Course)
Living with the Power of Gratitude (2 Session Course)
Audio
1 hour, 16 minutes
12/2008
Hema Pokharna shares how truly becoming a healing influence in this world, requires we each be powerful in a balanced, spiritually mature and responsible way. To a large extent, we need to develop our own healthy way of being powerful, gratitiude is a key.
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect
Practice Exercise
30 minutes
10/7/2021
How we treat ourselves when we fall short of our own ideals, desires and hopes can profoundly affect the quality of our lives. Learn how to identify your triggers and reactions, to mourn falling short, and to practice self-connection and self-empathy.
Developing Patience
Audio
53 minutes
11/03//2010
Jim and Jori offer practical tools to help us develop patience through a process they call WAIT: Wake up, Accept, Insight, Take a step.
Money, Value, and Our Choices
Article
10 - 15 minutes
11/2013
How much money to pay? And how much money to ask for? The supply and demand logic basically say that we ask for the most that “the market can absorb” and pay “the least that we can get away with.” We can instead, we can engage in experiments that focus on connecting to and satisfying needs. We can also engage with our varying degrees of access to resources within the existing economy and consider how we want to make choices about resources, especially when we have access to power.
Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries
Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries
Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
9/22/2022
One way of simplifying decision-making in relationships is clarity about the level of contact and connection you want with the people you interact with. This means knowing what you want and don’t want to share, the kinds of activities you do and don’t do together, how often, etc. This can help you chose how to best support your needs in that context, and help you to remember to set life-serving boundaries when you need them.