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Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 10/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
10/2015

There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to heal with empathy, look for unequal power dynamics, take responsibility to make repairs, and shift into the clean, life-serving, fully expressed anger and love.


From Suffering to Aliveness: Not Fighting Reality

Audio • 26 minutes • 08/16/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
26 minutes
08/16/2014

How we relate to life parallels how we relate to others! Learn how to have a more healthy way of relating to situations and people when your needs are not being met. Bob Wentworth offers some wisdom on moving from suffering to aliveness through not fighting what is.


Exercise In Self Compassion

Practice Exercise • 1- 3 minutes • 1/29/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1- 3 minutes
1/29/2022

With this exercise you'll choose an experience you had with someone where your needs were not met. You'll work with the related feelings, judgements, values, and feeling the fullness of the need even though it was not met, plus any sadness that may arise.


Engage Your Curiosity

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.


What the World Needs

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 11/2008
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
11/2008

In this written transcript of a live presentation, Inbal Kashtan shares how she first became aware of poverty. She explains how empathy is a vital and powerful force for creating peace in our world today, and a powerful means of creating a world that works for all of us.


Celebrating Mourning

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
2005

In a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl had died in a car accident. Everyone in the town knew her and was openly affected by her death.


Courage

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2017
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes
07/2017

In listening to what our emotions tell us, and embracing what we do not know, we begin the path of courage. Even though our culture tells us not to, revealing our imperfections is where we can deeply connect. Living our lives more courageously honest, can shift us towards inspiring one another. Read on for how some people experienced this in coming together to transform one woman's heroine addiction.


Liberating Ourselves from Our “Shoulds”

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: When you tell yourself that you have to do something, you're more likely to disconnect yourself from the needs you’re trying to meet, and also diminish the joy in your life. Instead, experiment with translating your “shoulds” and “have tos” into the need you are trying to meet.


Life, Interdependence, and the Pursuit of Meeting Needs

Article • 9 - 13 minutes • 12/2017
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 - 13 minutes
12/2017

The more we can support an interdependent flow of resources and energy in society and the economy, the greater we can increase both natural abundance and the chances of averting extinction. Accumulation is a strategy born of mistrust. It’s an attempt to control the flow of life to guarantee that we will have enough for the future. Accumulation and exchange has blocked this interdependent flow. We can transform this blockage by uncoupling giving from receiving, and shedding excess as much as we can, so that energy and resources can travel further to those in need.


ZENVC Exercise

Audio • 12 minutes • 7/30/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
12 minutes
7/30/2022

In this awareness exercise, Jesse approaches NVC from a Tai Chi or Zen perspective, enabling you to witness what is in relationship to a specific focus. He draws attention to the lived experience of an object rather than using words as a substitute for the felt experience.


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