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Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

Audio • 44 minutes • 11/17/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
44 minutes
11/17/2018

Mediating a conflict conversation can be challenging – but with tools and practice, that challenge can be transformed. If you're curious about the specific steps needed to achieve that transformation, join John for an exploration of his non-dual mindfulness practice.


The Price of Nice

Article • 12 - 16 minutes • 2000
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 16 minutes
2000

Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate. The antidotes: honesty, passion and compassion.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 16. Help Others Build Their Own Truth-Finding Neural Pathways

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

Along with it’s potential for helping others calm their emotions and feel deeply understood, the Nonviolent Communication process of empathetic listening can help someone increase their capacity for finding their own truth.


Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/27/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/27/2022

Trainer Tip: Thinking someone is bad, wrong, or evil can make it more difficult to connect with them. If we focus on this kind of thinking, we stay in the problem or conflict. The minute we step out of judgement and listen for the needs underlying their actions, we begin working for the solution. Put your focus in the direction of the result you want. Read on for an example.


Distinguishing Self-Revealing from Projection

Trainer Tip • 10 - 15 minutes • 10/15/2020
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
10 - 15 minutes
10/15/2020

In this book excerpt, Kathleen and Jared offer a path to reach deeper clarity, distinguishing between revealing ourselves and projection.


Lonely Together

Article • 5 - 7 minutes • 05/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes
05/2020

When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships, and to decrease our loneliness when together.


Empathy Buddy Guidelines

Article • 2 - 3 minutes • 1/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2 - 3 minutes
1/2010

Here are some guidelines and agreements for creating empathy buddy sessions. Includes a list of blocks to empathy.


Avoiding “Right Fights”

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/05/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/05/2005

Trainer Tip: Ready to start a fight because you're right? Consider another strategy.


NVC Life Hacks 21: Shame and the fear of doing it wrong

Video • 5 minutes • 07/09/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
07/09/2020

When was the last time you were in a situation with an overwhelming feeling of shame or an unnerving fear of 'doing it wrong'? Sometimes we get sweaty palms or a dry mouth, maybe we freeze on the spot or start an unhelpful internal monologue that makes the situation feel even worse. In this months NVC Life Hack Gesine takes a closer look at her own experience with shame and the fear of doing it wrong.


Motivation Through Joy

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/2005

Pay attention to when you're motivated by guilt, duty, obligation, shame, and worry. How do you feel? Does it bring up resentment, rebellion, submission, reactivity or resistance? When you're motivated by joy notice how that feels, and how others respond. Read on for a related story.


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