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Evaluating Ourselves with Compassion

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Every time you criticize yourself, you cause yourself to feel shame and guilt, which promotes depression and stagnation. Instead, bringing in more self compassion can increase opportunities for change. Do this by acknowledging your needs (or values) that aren’t met by your actions. Read on for how to do this.


Introduction to NVC Mediation: Conceptual Overview and Experiential Learning and Practice

Audio • 1 hour, 13 minutes • 02/09/2009
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 13 minutes
02/09/2009

This Introduction to NVC Mediation provides a conceptual overview and experiential taste of the NVC mediation learning model developed by John Kinyon and Ike Lasater.


Searching Together For A Way Forward

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 07/15/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
07/15/2022

It's tempting to shut down a heated conversation when it’s painful and overwhelming. What can give us strength to stay open to hearing and being moved, to being open to new possibility, is recalling the “triad of conversation.” The triad is self and other and then awareness on the third side of the conversation. Here we can return to connection, to what we share and need in common, to a searching together for the way forward.


Increasing diversity in NVC circles

Article • 9 - 13 minutes • 06/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 - 13 minutes
06/2019

Want to increase diversity, plus improve group dynamics and group functioning? There are things you can do to make NVC settings more welcoming to people of color. Learn more about how to use NVC; attend to impact; help the community understand and demonstrate more awareness; factor in historical context; engage; create a more inclusive climate; and more!


How I Changed My Relationship to Time

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 1/2012
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8 - 12 minutes
1/2012

What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above the internal rhythm of your life energy? This is an invitation into more responsibility, awareness, honesty, choice and freedom.


Help for Overwhelm

Article • 3-5 minutes • 11/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes
11/2019

Reducing overwhelm requires you to reconnect with your authentic choice, be present and compassionate with what's happening, heal trauma, and interrupt the trauma response. Read on for ways that may help you reconnect with your choice, presence and more on trauma.


A Talk About Needs

Audio • 10 minutes • 06/2007
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
10 minutes
06/2007

Listen to this audio to learn the value of focusing on needs in an NVC model, either for the first time or as a refresher course. Living from a needs-consciousness creates abundance, clarity and choice. Using three examples from participants, Mary guides the group towards identifying and then connecting with the needs of both parties involved in each situation. It becomes clear very quickly that people choose different ways to support their needs; and many times they have the same needs in a given situation. When we understand this, we are able to create peace in our relationships and negotiations.

“Everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need,” says CNVC Certified Trainer Mary Mackenzie. This simple statement is a foundational understanding in Nonviolent Communication; once you gain skills at living in a “needs-consciousness” you will literally change your life and your perception of the world, and improve all of your relationships.


Dealing with Triggers

Video • 5 minutes • 07/28/2014
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
07/28/2014

What do I do when I'm leading an NVC group and get emotionally triggered? Mary Mackenzie offers tips to respond with care and connection from her extensive experience leading NVC groups.


Feelings vs Interpretations

Article • 1-2 minutes • 04/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
1-2 minutes
04/2020

Here's a list of words that pose as feelings, but are actually interpretations of what you think someone is doing to you. They trigger defensiveness in another thereby preventing a connected dialogue. Behind each of these words are precious feelings and needs. This sheet includes ways to distinguish feelings from interpretations.


Celebrating Mourning

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
2005

In a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl had died in a car accident. Everyone in the town knew her and was openly affected by her death.


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