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New Year's Revolutions - For a Change

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 1/2006
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
1/2006

Here's a four step exercise applying a needs-based approach to effective goals, habits and New Year's Resolutions.


Choosing Whom We Empathize With

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their emotional support.


Naturalizing NVC Language Series: I Don't Know Whether to Express Myself or Offer Empathy

Video • 5 minutes • 06/07/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
06/07/2011

CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan discusses how focusing on connection and care can guide us in expressing honestly and offering empathy.


Mediating Conflict with Kids

Audio • 48 minutes • 02/03/2012
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
48 minutes
02/03/2012

In this stimulating audio recording, Stephanie Mattei covers several "hot" parenting topics such as: boundary issues, strategy resilience, how to shift your right/wrong mentality and understanding the concept of fairness. While unraveling these topics, Stephanie intersperses some practical neuroscience around brain regulation and brain-wise conflict prevention.


Dealing with Triggers

Video • 5 minutes • 07/28/2014
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
07/28/2014

What do I do when I'm leading an NVC group and get emotionally triggered? Mary Mackenzie offers tips to respond with care and connection from her extensive experience leading NVC groups.


Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Our particular needs and expectations in the moment, influences how we feel. So if you are feeling hurt, sad, angry, or disappointed, try to consider what your unmet needs are, and see if there are other ways you can get them met. Today, track how your needs affect your feelings.


Celebrating Love

Audio • 45 minutes • 08/27/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
45 minutes
08/27/2016

Celebrate love with Rodger Sorrow! Listen in as Rodger discusses a range of topics such as defining love, religion and love, and how to handle unloving responses.


Motivation Through Joy

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/2005

Pay attention to when you're motivated by guilt, duty, obligation, shame, and worry. How do you feel? Does it bring up resentment, rebellion, submission, reactivity or resistance? When you're motivated by joy notice how that feels, and how others respond. Read on for a related story.


Empathy – Not Empathy

Learning Tool • 2 - 3 minutes • 6/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
2 - 3 minutes
6/2019

This handout defines and contrasts "empathy" alongside "responses may meet needs, but are not empathy" (such as advice, correcting, consoling, etc).


The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 4/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
4/2014

The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection.  The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc).  Once we let the map drop away, we can engage with the people in our lives in a more heartfelt way.  This article explains more about how we can use the map to remind us of our  heartfelt consciousness...