Doing Something Different
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Commit to doing one thing right now that will bring you closer to meeting a need today. Do it today. Don’t put it off. This is your life.
Being the Change We Seek
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Is there something you would like more of in your life right now? Try not to look to other people to provide the kind of experiences you want. Can you think of a way that you can be the change you seek? See if responding to the people the way you would want them to respond to you shifts something. Read on for an example of how.
Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (6 Session Course)
Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (6 Session Course)
Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (6 Session Course)
Audio
7 hours, 10 minutes
03/19/2014
Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.
Calling Out / Calling In
Article
12 - 18 minutes
03/2019
When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much attention and compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over caring for people who bear the invisible brunt of such norms.
NVC LIfe Hacks 11: Effective Requests
Video
4 minutes
01/25/2019
Underlying much of our communication is a request: when we say something, we're usually expecting something else — perhaps something subtle — in return. Let's look at how to make requests clearer and more do-able, avoiding the pitfall of demands.
Getting Our Need for Love Met
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?
Expressing and Receiving “No” in NVC Consciousness
Expressing and Receiving “No” in NVC Consciousness
Expressing and Receiving “No” in NVC Consciousness
Audio
1 hour, 21 minutes
10/05/2009
How we deal with “no” is a litmus test of our state of consciousness around power. Listen as John works with participants as they learn to give and receive a "no" from a consciousness of interpersonal connection.
What the World Needs
Article
4 - 6 minutes
11/2008
In this written transcript of a live presentation, Inbal Kashtan shares how she first became aware of poverty. She explains how empathy is a vital and powerful force for creating peace in our world today, and a powerful means of creating a world that works for all of us.
Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide
Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide
Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide
Audio
1 hour, 25 minutes
9/24/2021
Miki leads course participants in an exploration of connecting and understanding those with seemingly polar opposite beliefs and perspectives about COVID-19 pandemic vaccination. Miki demonstrates that to live nonviolently, we must include those whom we so strongly disagree with.
Life Serving Strategies
Article
2-3 minutes
1/2015
This sheet lists and describes 13 life serving strategies, such as: Time out, disengage, honesty check, and engaging in a working recovery plan. Read on for more.