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When Someone's Anger Stimulates Fear for My Physical Safety

Audio • 7 minutes • 02/03/2009
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
7 minutes
02/03/2009

CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan tells us to look to our inner dialogue and the other's needs when we're feeling fear of physical violence that's been stimlated by someone's anger.


Shifting the Way We Do Things

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 7/2012
Introductory Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
7/2012

The way we talk to one another, and think about or react to our lives, may seem "normal" but eventually, this may reach a point where we realize something isn't working, and we make adjustments. But often the suffering continues if we aren't addressing root causes. In studying NVC we can become more aware of what we are doing and its effects -- plus imagine and implement alternatives that lead to greater fulfillment for self and others.


The Ultimate Romance

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 01/2018
All Skill Levels
Article
6 - 9 minutes
01/2018

For the ultimate romance to unfold, as an expression of your care for how your words and actions affect others, prioritize digging into your inner work before addressing conflict with them.  This means doing the inner work necessary to get to the root of the issue, which can bring bigger shifts, more aliveness, love, creativity, inspiration and compassion.  This doesn't mean letting the other person get away with unhealthy behaviour.


Agreements, Consequences and Punishment

Audio • 9 minutes • 05/2009
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes
05/2009

In this short but provocative audio, Miki Kashtan talks about agreements, making a vital distinction between the natural consequences of unmet agreements and punishment. She provides information about how to balance our current state of needs associated with our previous agreements.


Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 05/27/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
05/27/2022

Trainer Tip: Thinking someone is bad, wrong, or evil can make it more difficult to connect with them. If we focus on this kind of thinking, we stay in the problem or conflict. The minute we step out of judgement and listen for the needs underlying their actions, we begin working for the solution. Put your focus in the direction of the result you want. Read on for an example.


From Blame To Power

Practice Exercise • 12 -18 minutes • 02/19/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
12 -18 minutes
02/19/2022
Blame is opaque when we don’t reflect on it deeply. We blame when we don’t see ourselves as having power to shape things, and see others as the ones who can. Blame and how we respond to it, is both a symptom of inability to step into power, and an impediment to empowered relationships. Transforming blame requires self-responsibility. Read on for practices involving empathy, inner connection, power, preparation and engaging options.

NVC Flow

Learning Tool • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
1 - 2 minutes
1/2010

This single-page handout illustrates the steps to translating habitual judgements and actions into OFNR.


Recovering from Reactivity

Audio • 30 minutes • 06/2010
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
30 minutes
06/2010

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Jim and Jori Manske for this session that will help you minimize your reactivity and live in greater choice.


Developing Compassion for Humans, Animals and All Life (4 Session Course)

Audio • 5 - 7 hours • 07/10/2012
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
5 - 7 hours
07/10/2012

Join LoraKim Joyner to investigate how merging science, the social and emotional intelligence of humans, animals and other species and Nonviolent Communication can bring a greater sense of belonging and wholeness to your life, and care and justice to the lives of others.

 


Needs-Based Negotiation: 3 Stages Of Dialogue And 3 Types Of Reactivity

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes • 03/02/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes
03/02/2022

When there's quality connection then collaboration and creativity generosity of heart can come. Then strategies honoring everyone’s needs are easier. This requires us to trust connection, hear needs, brainstorm, experiment, prepare, and hold confidence that everyone’s needs can be met. Needs-based negotiation starts there. What derails this? Feeling urgency, listening from our (dis)likes or opinions, and dire predictions.


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