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How I Continue to Mess Up Being an Ally

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 06/2020
All Skill Levels
Article
5 - 8 minutes
06/2020

Working for racial justice is a shift in perspective—a shift in understanding and empathy that leads to a change in our actions: to listen instead of talk, to follow instead of lead, to yield rather than dominate. And to accept that I will continue to mess up. Part of working to undo racism is having the humility to know when our own understanding is limited. Read on for more this, and how it relates to meditation -- plus personal and collective liberation.


Patterns That Perpetuate Conflict - Part 2 of 2

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 11/10/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Article
8 - 12 minutes
11/10/2022

Here we explore variants of conflict patterns in part two (of this two part series) that include: refuting "straw man arguments"; not checking understanding, repeating unhelpful behaviour; repeatedly asking for what's already given; asserting rather than demonstrating responsiveness; assumptions; denying conflict exists; neglecting interdependence; stonewalling; absence of curiosity, humility, respect, empathy or care (even when reflecting).


Moving From Blame to Self-Responsibility

Article • 2 - 5 minutes • 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 - 5 minutes
2007

Often when someone else does something we don't like, it's easy to blame the other person. After all, we have all been trained to focus on fault when needs are not met. What can we do to shift that pattern?


Beyond Praise: Expressing Gratitude

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 10/09/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
10/09/2021

Praise may disconnect us from our own confidence, intrinsic motivation, or discernment. It may lead to perfectionism, people pleasing, codependency, a tendency to criticize others or fix others, and more. Instead, without evaluative words we can sincerely share what we specifically liked about what they did, and what needs were met for us.


Privilege / Lack of Privilege Affects White People, Fishbowl Discussion

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Video • 1 hour, 21 minutes • 04/22/2017
Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 21 minutes
04/22/2017

Join Jeff Brown for a provocative fishbowl discussion about how privilege and lack of privilege white people.


Bringing a Dead Conversation Back to Life

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Make a boring or "dead" conversation more interesting, meaningful and connecting. You can do this by connecting to the other person’s feelings, passions or desires. Read on for examples.


What Are Enemy Images?

Audio • 5 minutes • 11/2006
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
5 minutes
11/2006

In this compelling interview with Liv Larsson, CNVC Certified Trainer from Sweden, the NVC concept of enemy images — how they develop, what they represent and how they affect our relationships with others and self — is explored.


Group Feedback

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. We are experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones."


NVC Life Hacks 7: Facilitation

Video • 3 minutes • 09/25/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Video
3 minutes
09/25/2018

Leading an Nonviolent Communication workshop is a good way to learn and practice NVC skills. Here are Shantigrabha and Gesine's seven top tips for facilitators.


Facing the Holidays in a Pandemic

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 11/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
11/2020

The pandemic asks us to examine the way we have always done things. It asks to try something new and notice what happens. This is an opportunity to ask why you have done holidays in a certain way and what needs it met to do it that way. Perhaps it is an opportunity to experiment and see what new things might arise. Read on for questions to ask yourself that might help you process your triggers, "should's", feelings, needs and dilemmas.


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