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What Is An Observation In NVC?

Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 11/16/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Article
10 - 15 minutes
11/16/2022

There's a growing trend to elevate feelings and personal truths (aka MY truth) to the point of being unassailable "facts". If I feel unsafe, then it must be because of you. As valid as a person’s inner world is, we risk overlooking what's beyond our own views, such as larger forces around us that continue to underwrite exploitation, violence, “othering”, etc. Instead, describe specific words and actions that a camera would record.


Requests in a Moment of Reactivity

Article • 3-5 minutes • 05/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes
05/2019

Here are 16 helpful requests you can make before you're swept up in your own reactivity.


How to Enjoy Your Family Dinner

Audio • 49 minutes • 12/16/2013
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
49 minutes
12/16/2013

If you dread family gatherings because of family tensions, you can find ways to excavate through piles of hardened judgments and hopelessness, build on your inner strength, and engage with family conflicts with open-hearted curiosity, greater presence, and connecting with what really matters to everyone.


Cause of Feelings

Audio • 13 minutes • 05/2007
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
13 minutes
05/2007

Many of us blame other people for our feelings but our own state of needs is the true cause. In this powerful audio, Sylvia teaches you how to manage your emotions in challenging situations and demonstrates the process of Screaming in Giraffe.


How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

Practice Exercise • 30 minutes • 10/7/2021
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
30 minutes
10/7/2021

How we treat ourselves when we fall short of our own ideals, desires and hopes can profoundly affect the quality of our lives. Learn how to identify your triggers and reactions, to mourn falling short, and to practice self-connection and self-empathy. 


Hidden Needs

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I've been feeling frustrated and angry quite a bit lately over very simple things. Can you help me get to the root of my hidden needs?"


Dialogue with the World at Large (4 Session Course)

Audio • 7 - 9 hours • 1/20/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
7 - 9 hours
1/20/2022

A chosen, interdependent world… In most cases, that's sure not the world we live in today, is it. But it could be the world we live in tomorrow. And you can choose to be part of bringing that better world to life – to be part of a gradual, joyful transformation – simply by using the dynamic, living power of Dialogue.


Love Without Conditions, Control or Coercion

Audio • 2 hours, 15 minutes • 02/2008
Advanced Skill Level
Audio
2 hours, 15 minutes
02/2008

In this prerecorded telecourse, Kelly uses humor, stories and practical ideas to help spouses, lovers, friends and parents discover how freedom and autonomy are the basis for all healthy relationships.


When You Are Being "Talked At"

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 4/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes
4/2019

Has someone ever talked to you to the extent that you're no longer enjoying it, and you now wonder if they even know you're there? Learn ways to bring in emotional understanding, engage more honestly and open-heartedly, and bridge next steps to the type of conversation that engages everyone's needs.


Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

Article • 16 - 24 minutes • 1/19/2023
Advanced Skill Level
Article
16 - 24 minutes
1/19/2023

Whether privileged or not, its not easy to see the humanity of others in different social locations, especially if their actions have unwanted impacts and have left behind our humanity. Aiming for “both sides hearing each other” empathically, and to focus on effect rather than intent when we have more privilege, may theoretically lead to liberation. Yet, in practice it can reinforce rather than transcend power differences -- unless there's specific ways to focus attention and choice. Here, its important to transform expectations into working with willingness, and within our own terms and timetable.


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