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How To Interrupt Tragic Cycles That Prevent Collaboration

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/2020
Beginner Skill Level
6 - 9 minutes

Interrupt cycles of conflict by creating a new ways forward. You can do this by connecting with the energy of the met needs you want in the dynamic; guessing the other person's needs; naming your needs; asking essential questions; identifying at least three different strategies to meet each need; and imagining the positive outcome.

A Strong Man: A Children’s Story

Audio • 6 minutes • 2010
Beginner Skill Level
6 minutes

Listen to this captivating story by Leo Sofer.  A strong blacksmith comes to the aid of a little girl when she needs protecting. But can he protect her from the harsh words she speaks to herself inside her head?

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

Article • 9 pages • 04/21/2008
Intermediate Skill Level
9 pages

Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

Meeting Our Need for Trust

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: When you suspect someone is lying, consider how it may be less important what the truth is. Instead, notice whether your need for trust is met. Without blame, nor labelling. you can make specific requests to meet your needs, while also respecting the other person’s needs. Read on for more.

Taking Responsibility for Your Choices

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 06/21/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Giving up on blame and taking responsibilty for our choices is immensely empowering. Mary offers a tip for growing in this direction.

Common Ground…How?

Audio • 14 minutes • 9/25/2022
Beginner Skill Level
14 minutes

Speaking with a united head, heart, and body is the epitome of internal NVC work. HOW do you get there? Listen as David demonstrates his formula for connecting all three areas: 1) ignition; 2) get the big picture; and 3) Break it down: practice, correct, practice, correct!

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 15. Keep Asking for Help

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Asking for help is difficult for many of us, but can yield rich rewards.

ZENVC Exercise

Audio • 12 minutes • 7/30/2022
Beginner Skill Level
12 minutes

In this awareness exercise, Jesse approaches NVC from a Tai Chi or Zen perspective, enabling you to witness what is in relationship to a specific focus. He draws attention to the lived experience of an object rather than using words as a substitute for the felt experience.

Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 9/22/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

One way of simplifying decision-making in relationships is clarity about the level of contact and connection you want with the people you interact with. This means knowing what you want and don’t want to share, the kinds of activities you do and don’t do together, how often, etc. This can help you chose how to best support your needs in that context, and help you to remember to set life-serving boundaries when you need them.

To Vaccinate or Not to Vaccinate - How to Connect With What Matters

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 8/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
8 - 12 minutes

To help you stay connected to yourself and the other person when in challenging discussions about COVID-19 vaccines or other hot issues, without labeling others as reactive or otherwise, you can begin by tracking signs of your own reactivity to bring mindfulness onboard, then shifting your attention to universal needs; and asking to connect about it later. Read on for more.

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