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Abusive Relationships and Nonviolence

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 03/2012
Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
8 - 12 minutes
03/2012

In order to bring in more nonviolence into the world, we need to take our own needs seriously and recognize that no amount of seeing someone’s innocence would mean putting up with more of their harmful behavior. We need to disentangle compassion towards another from the willingness to tolerate more harmful actions. At times this means finding enough self-love, support, or clarity, to take decisive action. Read on for more.


About Guilt and How Apologizing Falls Short

Audio • 8 minutes • 05/13/2009
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
8 minutes
05/13/2009

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she examines the nature of guilt and how apologizing often fails to connect us to our needs.


Paying Attention In Troubled Times

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 03/2019
All Skill Levels
Article
5 - 8 minutes
03/2019

Our world is facing stressful times. And the more stress you experience, the less resourced you can become. But consider that you're not messed up, but rather, the challenges you bear is a response to manufactured environments and culture that are more hostile than they are kind towards our human souls and bodies. And so, let’s be clear. Let’s be discerning. Let’s be compassionate. Let’s pay attention.


10 Ways To Identify Your Needs

Practice Exercise • 3 -5 minutes • 05/05/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 -5 minutes
05/05/2022

To learn to identify and speak from your needs requires specific tasks and practices. Here's a list of 10 learning tasks and practices for you to choose from. Some of these ideas include using needs cards and lists, working backwards from strategies and ideal scenarios, reflecting on past experiences and relationships, and asking for/offering/exchanging empathy.


Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
01/2018

What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathize, be present, attuned, or responsive?  Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected in our relationships.


Interrupt Emotional Shut Down

Article • 3- 5 minutes • 09/2020
All Skill Levels
Article
3- 5 minutes
09/2020

In times of stress, some part of you may still hold the belief that you can't be present for the stressor and survive. Some part of you may believe you have to go away. There are three things you can consider when attempting to intervene with the reactive pattern of shutting down: how you relate to the shutting down, access to self-confidence, and engagement. Read on for more.


Mediating Conflicts

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When there's conflict if you set the intention to connect and build trust first, you're more likely to move towards resolution. This can be built through offering reflections that captures essence of what's important to each party. Once connection and trust is established, then begin the process of creating strategies and solutions.


Developing Observation Skills

Audio • 23 minutes • 07/2011
Introductory Skill Level
Audio
23 minutes
07/2011

In this introductory audio with CNVC Certified Trainers, Jim and Jori Manske, you will learn the difference between an observation and an evaluation, and how discerning between the two improves your ability to stay present in the moment. Included are daily practices for developing your observational skills.


Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment.   Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values.


Exploring Your Connection To Life And To Your Life Purpose

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/01/2022
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
02/01/2022

Here are some questions to support you in exploring your connection to life, your life purpose. Here we briefly touch upon what blocks you, your gratitude, strengths, passions, and what you’re committed to.


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