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An Introduction to the Embodied Spirituality of NVC

Video • 21 minutes • 2009
Beginner Skill Level
Video
21 minutes
2009

In this inspiring video, Robert Gonzales, veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, talks about his personal search to integrate spirituality into his daily life, and how Nonviolent Communication provided the missing link for this integration and has become the focus of his work.


A Focus on Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Today look for opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person.


Getting Our Need for Love Met

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?


Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
07/2019

We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.) Bring in support for more resilience and creativity.


Social Dynamics During the Holidays

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 12/2004
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
12/2004

During the holiday season we may find ourselves taking responsibility for other's feelings, which can lead to guilt, shame, depression, and resentment. These feelings are exacerbated by the habitual pattern we call the "Vortex of Submission" (being hooked by a sense of duty and obligation). Read on for ways to recognize and break the pattern.


NVC Life Hacks 13: Restorative v. Punitive Approaches

Video • 7 minutes • 03/28/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Video
7 minutes
03/28/2019

When people get hurt or harmed, how can we restore trust, safety and connection in the community? A restorative approach which focuses on who got hurt and how can we restore it? Rather than whose fault is it and how can we punish them?


Conflict Improv: The Toilet Seat

Video • 10 minutes • Circa 2008
Beginner Skill Level
Video
10 minutes
Circa 2008

Have you ever had an argument with someone who simply wouldn't put the toilet seat down? Watch veteran CNVC Certified Trainers Kelly Bryson, Christine King and Jean Morrison navigate this challenging yet common dialogue.


Working With Anger: An Exercise

Practice Exercise • 2 -3 minutes • 12/22/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 -3 minutes
12/22/2021

Fully connecting to the deeper need under the anger can transform and release the anger, without requiring the other person to do anything differently. From there, you can reach an understanding of the other person's experience, feelings and needs underlying the actions that stimulated your anger to re-establish connection with your own and the other person's humanity.


Consciousness, NVC, and Navigating Inner and Outer Conflicts

Audio • 35 minutes • 08/08/2015
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
35 minutes
08/08/2015

Listen to John talk about the inner and outer mediation process, the importance of the "3rd chair," and an experience of working with Pakistani elders.


Receiving Appreciation

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Acknowledge that the person’s life has been affected by your actions and enjoy the feeling of warmth you have when you contribute to a life. Try verbally acknowledging how you feel when you hear that you have enhanced her life.


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