How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?
How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?
How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?
Article
23 - 34 minutes
06/2020
Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay "safe". Read on to cultivate greater understanding and ways to respond differently.
A Focus on Needs
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Today look for opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person.
Witnessing Humanity
Audio
40 minutes
06/2010
CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan talks about what she calls "witnessing humanity," touching on the gift of presence, empathy vs. identification and staying present in the face of intensity.
The Mobilizing Power of Anger
Article
3-5 minutes
06/2020
Anger can result in violence or in a movement towards positive change. We can see this happen in the push for racial justice. When you perceive anger as a form of violence your nervous system becomes activated. Your perspective narrows and old conditioning can take over leading to overwhelm, defensiveness, hatred, or violence. Read on for four ways to to respond to our own or others' anger in a way that mobilizes desired change.
Working with Subtle Boundary Violations
Article
7-11 minutes
12/2017
Subtle boundary violations are more difficult to catch and name in the moment, than obvious boundary violations. Becoming more aware of these moments and finding the words to set a boundary are critical to supporting healthy relating long-term. Three categories of subtle boundary violations are (1.) lack of mutuality, (2.) voice tone and volume, and (3.) speaking for or about someone. Read on to learn more about all three.
Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)
Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)
Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)
Audio
6 hours, 2 minutes
01/2014
We invite you to dive into this voyage, where you and Robert will swim ever deeper into the Spiral of Life, coming face-to-face with your divine Life Force – that essential living energy that permeates all.
NVC Life Hacks 18: How to Give Quick Feedback
Video
4 minutes
08/29/2019
Giving feedback can be a difficult task, sometimes we try to avoid getting to the point and instead end up spending a long time attempting to communicate. We find there are mostly two types of feedback. The first focuses on what is wrong with the person's behaviour and tends to feel more judgemental whereas the second is values-based feedback, focusing on the needs of the people involved.
Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article
Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article
Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article
Article
6 - 9 minutes
Circa 2005
Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can therefore greatly support our capacity for discovering and articulating what specifically we want from the other person that we believe may contribute to connection.
NVC Life Hacks 24: Bridge & Self Expression
Video
7 minutes
03/25/2020
Welcome to the final video in our 3 part Embodied NVC Life Hack series. So far we've learnt about rewiring our brain from a flight, fright or freeze reaction to the choice of self-empathy, allowing us to centre and check-in with ourselves. In part two, Empathy Skills, we went beyond self-empathy to look at ways we can empathise with the other person. In this final instalment, we create a bridge from empathising to expressing.
NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing
Video
2 hours, 48 minutes
02/2011
In this inspiring video, Gina Cenciose, CNVC Certified Trainer and Inner Relationship Focusing Guide and Instructor, offers an in-depth view of the distinctions and similarities between NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing (also known as IRF and Focusing).