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On Love and Empathy

Trainer Tip • 5 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
5 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: Is there any difference between the concept or experience of "love" and that of "empathy?"


Meeting Needs While Caretaking

Trainer Tip • 7 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
7 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: Can all needs be met when illness limits the capacity of one person to meet the needs of her partner?


Become Willing to Express Appreciation

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: If someone has enriched your life (or moment) in some way, consider telling them about it. Your appreciation might be just the gift they need to contribute to brightening their day.


Committing to Creating Solutions That Work for Everyone

Video • 5 minutes • 8/20/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
8/20/2021

Listen to Miki Kashtan explain the importance of intention in developing our skill at creating solutions that work for everyone. Neither fighting nor giving up are qualities of nonviolence, but rather a fierce determination to hold the needs of all parties may arise.


What Do I Do When I Completely Forget My NVC Consciousness?

Audio • 35 minutes • 08/16/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
35 minutes
08/16/2014

We sometimes forget our intention to stay fully present and awake, it happens to all of us. Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this forgetting, how we hold it and what we can do about it.


The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 02/2013
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes
02/2013

Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how the other person’s words, no matter how they sound to us, are an expression of their needs. We can then be more present and available to navigate the situation.


Going Deep: Understanding Your Own and Others’ Deeper Motivations

Practice Exercise • n/a • 09/2016
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
n/a
09/2016

 One of the premises in NVC is that behind all behavior and expressions are Universal Human Needs as the deeper motivators. And one of the key distinctions in NVC is that between Needs and Strategies. Try Alan's exercise called  "Peeling the Layers of the Onion, " a process for uncovering these needs — the deeper motivations — that underlie words and behaviors we may find disturbing or puzzling.


Mourning and Celebration

Audio • 35 minutes • 11/19/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
35 minutes
11/19/2016

Join Jori and Jim Manske to explore, learn and practice an NVC approach to mourning and celebration.


Getting Our Need for Love Met

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?


Parenting Series: When Your Child Only Has “No” for an Answer

Video • 8 minutes • 2005
Beginner Skill Level
Video
8 minutes
2005

In this video download, expert parent trainer and author of Parenting From Your Heart, Inbal Kashtan responds to the age-old question: "Why do children do things to annoy parents?"