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Ego, Mind, and Culture

Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 11/2013
All Skill Levels
Article
10 - 15 minutes
11/2013

The “mind” or our “ego” are often depicted as a static entity, an unchangable part of human nature, and as obstacles or negative parts of ourselves to overcome. This view creates maligning, a split within us, while remaining invisibly part and parcel of authority-based societies --the dominant culture and institutions into which we are born. Instead, I want to advocate an integration of reason and emotion, mind and heart, plus self and others.


I Don't Know Whether to Express Myself or Offer Empathy

Video • 5 minutes • 06/07/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
06/07/2011

CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan discusses how focusing on connection and care can guide us in expressing honestly and offering empathy.


Parenting Series: Understanding Requests and Demands

Video • 8 minutes • 2005
Beginner Skill Level
Video
8 minutes
2005

Inbal speaks to a group about our habit of demanding something of our children but making it sound like a request, the components of a true request and the importance of being honest when making a demand.


Giraffe Consciousness

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: Why do NVC practitioners sometimes use the giraffe as a metaphor for NVC consciousness? What can it help us understand about NVC consciousness? Read on for more.


NVC Life Hacks 19: How to Give Values-Based Feedback

Video • 6 minutes • 09/27/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Video
6 minutes
09/27/2019

In this Life Hack, we take a closer look at 'values-based' feedback and give you 7 practical tips that will help you provide useful feedback.


About Privilege...

Article • 8-12 minutes • 02/21/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8-12 minutes
02/21/2022

"Privilege" has many meanings, which can bring confusion. Here are questions essential to navigating challenges in NVC community about "privilege": How to call attention to times when language is used to divide and not connect? Where are people coming from when they say "privilege"? How to focus on using whatever language supports the depth of connection we seek with the heart of the people in front of us? Read on for more.


Another False Dichotomy: Selfish vs Selfless

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

If we’re selfish, all we care about is our own needs. If we’re selfless, our needs don’t enter the picture; others needs are the focus. But what if serving others meets our needs? What if being only selfish ultimately results in our needs being unmet? Do you find yourself bouncing between being a selfless doormat and then resenting it, and beating yourself up for being “selfish”? Instead, care about others’ needs AND your needs.


I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

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Article • 5-8 minutes • 12/2017
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-8 minutes
12/2017

As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people.  Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that brings in more warmth, presence and open-hearted connection.


Four Ways to Hear Any Message

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: In every interaction, we have a choice of responding in one of these four ways: judge/blame self, Judge/blame others, empathize with self, and/or empathize with others. The goal is to make a conscious choice about our response. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today.


Living Our Values

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/26/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/26/2022

Trainer Tip: Sometimes I wish others would make it easy for me to live my values. If other people would just do their part, I wouldn’t have to work so hard at doing mine. Can you relate? However, if I support peace in the world, this means I act peacefully because it’s important to me, not because it’s important to others. Identify your most important value today. Then live it. Notice how healing this can feel even just after one day.


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