Getting Started
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/26/2022
Trainer Tip: Identify one goal and take one small step toward achieving it today. It doesn’t matter how much or how often. The reward is in taking the first step, and then the second and third until you’ve attained your goal.
Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”
Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”
Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”
Article
5 - 8 minutes
2/2014
Our "felt-sense" can provide crucial information about our experience and our lives. It can also help us integrate and retain information. This can also bring greater access to internal resources, choice, open heartedness, collaboration and creative solutions. From there, profound insight and transformation can follow. Here's how we can harness that...
Foundational NVC Skills: Requests
Audio
1 hour, 25 minutes
11/15/2010
Marshall Rosenberg suggests that there are two requests that are the most transformative to relationships, (1) What’s alive in both of us? and (2) What would make life more wonderful for both of us? This telecourse recording offers an easy-to-digest overview of how carefully crafted requests inspire joyful relationships.
The Timing of Making A Request
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/29/2021
It's important to make requests specific and doable. Also, without a swift request immediately after we state our observation, feeling, and need in regard to the situation, the other person is left guessing what we want. Instead, a swift request can bring clarity and lessen the potential for the listener to become defensive or argue.
NVC Life Hacks 14: Purpose of NVC
Video
7 minutes
04/24/2019
Nonviolent Communication at its core is about the quality of connection that will lead to everybody's needs being met. In this months 'Purpose of NVC' episode, we ask ourselves five questions that help us gain an awareness of where Nonviolent Communication is being used.
It Takes a Community to Raise a Relationship
Article
5 - 8 minutes
2005
How to Hear Difficult Messages
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities today to choose empathizing over arguing with someone who is angry, and notice how it affects your ability to resolve the situation. Read on for more.
How to Meet Hurt and Pain From the Past
Article
2 - 4 minutes
6/2019
Past hurt and pain can get triggered even when it doesn't have much to do with the present. When that happens we can gain perspective by self reflecting, engaging self empathy, grounding an "anchor", noticing the present-moment safety, naming needs and making requests.
Change Is Afoot: A New Paradigm For First Responses After Difficult Events
Change Is Afoot: A New Paradigm For First Responses After Difficult Events
Change Is Afoot: A New Paradigm For First Responses After Difficult Events
Article
9 - 14 minutes
02/2020
One way to understand trauma is it means we got a blow greater than our nervous system can tolerate – then we move into hyperarousal, and then hypoarousal or dissociation. This cycle can continue long after. Here, we're not able to fully process emotional cues, information, our body, and others. It's important we consider re-writing the cultural paradigm of separation so that our trauma doesn't get marginalized.
From Domination to Partnership
Video
1 hour, 15 minutes
4/4/2022
How can we create a partnership and eye-level dialog with people who we perceive to have more power? In this session, we will create a practice of humanizing ourselves and others through empathy, practicing scary honesty, and making requests that serve both persons’ needs