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Responding to Anger

Article • 5-8 minutes • 05/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-8 minutes
05/2018

When someone wants to speak angrily about another, do you want to move away, try to calm them, argue, set a boundary, or offer empathy? What supports you to stay self connected? You can set boundaries regarding listening so that you're less likely to defend the other party, or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite curiosity and celebration. Read on for more.


Becoming a Change Agent Everywhere You Go (4 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 10/7/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
10/7/2015

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed – or locked into passivity? This course offers you a way out. Learn to change the way you perceive leadership, and you’ll help yourself respond more powerfully and proactively every day of your life – wherever you are – and whomever you’re with!


What Do I Do When I Completely Forget My NVC Consciousness?

Audio • 35 minutes • 08/16/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
35 minutes
08/16/2014

We sometimes forget our intention to stay fully present and awake, it happens to all of us. Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this forgetting, how we hold it and what we can do about it.


Making Requests Count

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 04/11/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
04/11/2022

Trainer Tip: A request completes the communication by stating specifically what we would like from someone else to meet our need. Without this clarity, our communication can be confusing and can easily be seen as a demand. When people know what you want, you have a better chance of meeting your needs. Make clear, specific, doable requests of people, and see if this increases the chance of meeting your needs. Read on for an example.


Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.


Inner Space And Compassion

Practice Exercise • 1- 2 minutes • 1/17/2022
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
1- 2 minutes
1/17/2022

Here's guidance on how to approach your inner experience when triggered or stuck in a distressing life experience. Self-Compassion in life can be experienced as: "There is room for life experience in me. There is an open space for ‘what is’ to be fully present in my inner experience". This exercise is more about tracing your felt experience than verbalizing it.


The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

Audio • 2 hours, 21 minutes • 06/24/2008
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
2 hours, 21 minutes
06/24/2008

Do you want to increase your capacity to identify and connect with feelings and needs?  Would you like to enhance your ability to translate judgments? Join Miki for this deep dive into feelings and needs.


Four Ways to Hear Any Message

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: In every interaction, we have a choice of responding in one of these four ways: judge/blame self, Judge/blame others, empathize with self, and/or empathize with others. The goal is to make a conscious choice about our response. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today.


Contextualizing the NVC Process

Video • 4 minutes • 06/07/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
4 minutes
06/07/2011

CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan explains how NVC's OFNR process is a tool to train our consciousness, rather than the "correct" way to speak.


Going Deep: Understanding Your Own and Others’ Deeper Motivations

Practice Exercise • n/a • 09/2016
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
n/a
09/2016

 One of the premises in NVC is that behind all behavior and expressions are Universal Human Needs as the deeper motivators. And one of the key distinctions in NVC is that between Needs and Strategies. Try Alan's exercise called  "Peeling the Layers of the Onion, " a process for uncovering these needs — the deeper motivations — that underlie words and behaviors we may find disturbing or puzzling.


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