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The Cause of Our Feelings

Trainer Tip • 3-5 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”


Getting Your Needs Met

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

We can ask for what we want but if we repeatedly don’t get it from one source, it's our responsibility to find a new way to get it. We don’t honor our relationships when we insist that people who are unavailable or unwilling to support us meet our needs. Read on for related a parable about a woman persistently asking to get milk from a hardware store.


Keys To Building Trust After Broken Agreements

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 12/2/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
12/2/2021

Building trust involves each person taking responsibility for what they want by identifying their needs, and making specific and doable requests that open a negotiation. Identify in what contexts you already have trust, what you want to be able to trust, and how you may be blocking or cultivating that trust. Making requests for specific actions of what to do differently can also help.


Observing: Practicing the distinction between "observation" and "observation mixed with evaluation"

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
1/2020

Recalling Krishnamurti, Marshall referred to the capability of distinguishing observation vs observation mixed with evaluation as "the highest form of human intelligence." Read on for an exercise to help practice the skill of observation in combination with mindful walking.


Winning the Blame Game

Audio • 47 minutes • 01/25/2015
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
47 minutes
01/25/2015

Jim and Jori Manske offer insight into blame, how it arises and how do we handle being blamed and our own blame of others.


Trauma and Sanctuary

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 11/2009
All Skill Levels
Article
3 - 5 minutes
11/2009

One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.


Balancing All Needs as a NVC Facilitator (yours, individuals members and in a group)

Video • 1 hour, 36 minutes • 05/12/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 36 minutes
05/12/2018

Ever wondered how to balance everyone’s needs when leading a NVC group? In the first part of the video, Mary shares tips how to balance the facilitator's, the individuals members' and the group's needs. In the second part, Mary talks about transparency as a facilitator - what does it mean, what does it look like and how to be transparent in a way that is supportive for the group.

 


The Vortex of Submission (9 Session Course)

Audio • 9 hours, 55 minutes • 01/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 hours, 55 minutes
01/2011

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Jori and Jim Manske in an exploration of how gratitude can enable you to remain more present moment to moment, thus enabling you to flourish in your life!


Engage Your Curiosity

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.


Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance When I Want Change

Audio • 8 minutes • 3/12/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
8 minutes
3/12/2022

In moments where we would like to see change, personal growth or spiritual transformation, rather than immediately acting to make a change, Robert suggests we practice unconditional self-acceptance through a spacious presence to our inner experience. Robert asks us to give our attention and spacious awareness to our own judgments, inner contractions, and other experiences we often regard as undesirable.


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