Two Essential Tips for Facilitating Vibrant NVC Groups
Two Essential Tips for Facilitating Vibrant NVC Groups
Two Essential Tips for Facilitating Vibrant NVC Groups
Video
10 minutes
03/03/2014
Listen to Mary Mackenzie as she focuses on her opening premise for group participation, which lays the foundation for developing vibrant groups and then defines the facilitator’s role, which is often not known or incorrectly defined.
Alarm Feelings: Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
07/14/2022
Anger, guilt, shame, and shutdown are often based on reactivity and “should” thinking. They narrow and distort perceptions, which can bring more suffering. So instead, feel them without resistance, nor acting on them. Bring clarity by naming your observables and thoughts, plus your underlying vulnerable feelings, needs and self-responsibility. Then mourn what needs were, or are, unmet. Only then choose what actions to meet needs.
Moralistic Judgments
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: When we express moralistic judgments we are implying that other people are wrong or bad because they don’t act in ways that are in harmony with our values. Judging the situation or people can create distance and hurt. Instead, we can express our needs and how we're affected, bringing greater connection and healing. Today, notice how often you judge, and how you feel when you judge.
Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics (5 Session Course)
Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics (5 Session Course)
Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics (5 Session Course)
Audio
3 hours, 49 minutes
04/07/2014
Join Linda Mia Mukte (formerly Rysenbry), CNVC Certified Trainer, for this uniquely powerful telecourse recording that blends NVC with Dr. Sue Johnson’s empirically validated work on adult love relationships called EFCT: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Exercise On Self Responsibility
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
1/17/2022
Self responsibility is owning what's yours. It involves identifying your observations, evaluations, feelings, longings, and more. When we identify what's truly ours we are unlikely to mistake it as coming from outside of us. Self responsibility is not self blame. Without self responsibility, we project, blame and judge. Self-responsibility is central to clarity and full self-awareness. This exercise will guide you there.
Healing the Blame that Binds
Article
4 -6 minutes
2000
Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice." As long as I keep the big bony finger of blame pointed in your direction, I can remain unaware of the fact that it is what I am telling myself about your behavior that is stimulating my painful reactions.
Self-Connection Exercise for Well Being and Interconnectedness
Self-Connection Exercise for Well Being and Interconnectedness
Self-Connection Exercise for Well Being and Interconnectedness
Audio
6 minutes
11/03/2010
Jim leads a self-connection exercise focused on how our lives are interwoven with people we love, acquaintances, people unknown to us, and even those who have come before us or will come after us.
How to Balance Differentiation and Bonding
Article
5 -7 minutes
10/29/2021
When a relationship has both differentiation and bonding you can express differences and unmet needs, and responsibly do your own thing without it being a threat to the bond with another. You honor each others choices. There's trust rather than a sense of resentful obligation. Needs-based negotiation is easier. See if you tend to emphasize only differentiation or bonding in your relationships. Imagine how to support the opposite.
The Illusion of Conflicting Needs
Practice Exercise
30 minutes
09/08/2019
This exercise will help you resolve situations in which you have two needs which seem to be in conflict with each other, transforming inner conflict into peace.
Making Sure We Are Heard
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: We all see through our own filters. To disentangle what we hear from some is really saying, check using understanding requests at the level of detail you need. Course correct along the way. In a charged situation this can be critical to bringing in clarity, being heard and resolving differences amicably.