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Creating Real Challenges—Are you Game?

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 2/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
2/2015

A challenge is an expansion of making a clear, positive doable request — and, when given, the person feels deeply seen by the challenger. A challenge isn't just about getting someone to take action on something important to them; it's a fierce form of empathy that supports people in connecting with their life force, and integrates it into their lives with action. A real challenge is tied to the receiver's goals, passions and dreams -- and expands their potential.


Doing Something Different

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Commit to doing one thing right now that will bring you closer to meeting a need today. Do it today. Don’t put it off. This is your life.


Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Learning Tool • 3 pages • 2008
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
3 pages
2008

NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.


Starting and Maintaining a NVC Practice Group

Article • 2 - 3 minutes • 6/2012
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2 - 3 minutes
6/2012

This article explores ways of starting and maintaining NVC study groups and practice groups. It offers recommended reading support materials and poses questions to consider for structuring and organizing the group.


Getting Our Need for Love Met

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?


How to Use NVC with Talkative Friends

Trainer Tip • 21 minutes • 07/2008
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
21 minutes
07/2008

Ask the Trainer: "Could you explore why people 'talk too much' and how I could connect with them and myself empathically when I'm also talking too much?"


Offering Presence For Repetitive Fears

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 9/24/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
9/24/2021

Three things can be helpful to practice when you want to contribute to someone caught in repetitive fears: self empathy, allowing grief for what you wish was true and is not, and empathy for their difficulty. You can also ask them what's helpful.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 5. Separate Needs from Outcomes and Strategies

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

Eric Bowers explains how needs and strategies correlate to different brain hemispheres, and how relaxing into our needs opens us to greater possibilities.


Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 11/2015
All Skill Levels
Article
6 - 9 minutes
11/2015

When we have few external resources (money, time, health connections, etc), we can still empower ourselves and one another.  We can strengthen our internal resources, inspire people to join our cause, build solidarity, and influence others who have external resources to support us and our causes.


Nonviolence In The Face of Rape or Assault

Article • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/2016
All Skill Levels
Article
1 - 2 minutes
12/2016

Here's a brief anecdote showing how one woman was able transform a situation, where a man was about to assault or rape her. She responded in a creative way that lead them both to see each others' humanity -- navigating them both to safety. As part of her ingenuity he ended up spending the night in her house, in another room.


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