Tolerating reactivity, name-calling, blaming, guilt-tripping, or stonewalling can lead to resentment and hurt. Plus, the more you stay in a reactive dynamic, the more you are likely to reinforce the pattern. Setting life-serving boundaries arund reactivity is about letting another know that you aren’t going to participate in that kinds of dynamics. This means knowing what helps with handling difficulties and asking for that.
With the emergence of the Black Lives Matter movement and in honor of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Roxy Manning, Francois Beausoleil and the Nonviolent Leadership for Social Justice training team explore how we can bring a needs-based consciousness, together with a critical awareness of systemic/structural inequities, to embody a new and transformative way forward.
Trainer Tip: Discovering the unmet needs is only a starting point. The other part is to understand what it will take to meet that need, and make a request that will accomplish this. This way, we can resolve situations before they escalate. Everyone benefits when we are clear about what we would like.