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Developing Discernment

Audio • 43 minutes • 07/2011
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
43 minutes
07/2011

Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices.


Judging and Feeling Judged

Audio • 18 minutes • 06/2008
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
18 minutes
06/2008

In this potent audio, expert trainer Miki Kashtan demonstrates the eye-opening experience of translating judgments into needs. She works with a mother who is stuck in a loop of feeling judged by family members and judging them back.


Living Peacefully

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/23/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
9/23/2022

Trainer Tip: When we match might with might, we create discord, frustration, and separation from other people. Instead, place aside your urge to be right or to win. Approach charged situations with a sincere desire to be honest, and to value everyone’s needs including your own. The way you show up is a valuable asset. You may not get what you asked for but you can increase your chances of meeting your needs for integrity, and more.


Second Chances

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 07/2009
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
07/2009

Eric offers a very brief but valuable Trainer Tip about persistence practicing NVC, sometimes a small shift in approach can make a big difference.


NVC Life Hacks 23: Embodied NVC Part Two Empathy Skills

Video • 5 minutes • 03/02/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
03/02/2020

Welcome to Part Two of our 3 part Embodied NVC Life Hack series. Last time we looked at rewiring your brain to navigate our primitive mind and sometimes default reactions such as fight, flight or freeze when faced with conflict. In this episode, we're going beyond self-empathy and looking at ways we can empathize with the other person.


Understanding and Transforming Anger

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 01/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
01/2021

Anger can alert us that a need may be threatened. When anger lives in someone as a well-worn habit, it arises from a place of dissociation from one’s heart and is entangled with misinterpretations, a deep sense of threat, a history of pain, and social conditioning that isn’t life-serving. Read on for how intention, mindfulness, and specific actions can change that habit.


3 Key Principles for Successful Needs Based Negotiation

Article • 5-7 minutes • 09/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-7 minutes
09/2020

There are many layers of consciousness, knowledge, and skill that contribute to a successful negotiation. A successful negotiation is one where honor and connection lead to a way forward, and leads to a plan of action that considers and meets everyone's needs in that situation. Read on for three fundamental principles that help with successful needs-based negotiation.


Repair: Responding To A Lack Of Empathy

Practice Exercise • 4 -6 minutes • 05/25/2022
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
4 -6 minutes
05/25/2022

When someone stimulates your pain, you may want them to express care and empathy for your experience. If they're unwilling, you may resent it. You may forget the power of many strategies to meet a need, and you lose your agency. This can lead to reactive habits in you -- such as pleading, demanding, or attacking. Here are reasons you may not be getting an apology or empathy, and what options you have in moving forward.


Embracing Jackal Thoughts

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "In trainings I say our jackals are thoughts and now I've come to wonder if all thoughts are jackals...?"


Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

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Video • 44 minutes • 11/17/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
44 minutes
11/17/2018

CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur asks: "Have you ever seen something happen that made you feel uncomfortable and you didn't know what to do?" That's the "bystander effect:" a well-researched and commonly experienced phenomenon. Training can help you overcome it, enabling you to discern what to do and how to support others in ways that reduce trauma and increase safety.


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