Life-Alienating Communication
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: Be aware of times when you are judging others, demanding, making comparisons, or denying responsibility for your actions. Notice how these communication patterns affect your connection with other people.
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
Article
5 - 8 minutes
11/2019
What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.
How to Enjoy Your Family Dinner
Audio
49 minutes
12/16/2013
If you dread family gatherings because of family tensions, you can find ways to excavate through piles of hardened judgments and hopelessness, build on your inner strength, and engage with family conflicts with open-hearted curiosity, greater presence, and connecting with what really matters to everyone.
Living Our Values
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/26/2022
Trainer Tip: Sometimes I wish others would make it easy for me to live my values. If other people would just do their part, I wouldn’t have to work so hard at doing mine. Can you relate? However, if I support peace in the world, this means I act peacefully because it’s important to me, not because it’s important to others. Identify your most important value today. Then live it. Notice how healing this can feel even just after one day.
Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)
Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)
Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)
Audio
8 - 11 hours
10/11/2017
Does your inner dialog sound supportive and encouraging - or more like you’re being yelled at by a critical task-master? Gain an understanding of the neuroscience of the left and right hemispheres of the human brain and locate just where this savage inner voice is coming from and how to respond to it with empathy.
Getting Stuck Arguments Unstuck
Article
3-5 minutes
8/2018
Some arguments stay stuck because each person thinks it's about the content of the argument, rather than the needs each person is attempting to protect. When the needs get attached to the strategies a "no way out" scenario gets created. Instead, fully step into one another's worlds and connect to the feelings and needs behind the strategy each party is putting forth. Read on for six elements to creating empathic connection.
The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention
Article
5 - 8 minutes
06/2019
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, amongst some of the things we need is a well nourished heart. To nourish our hearts we need to discern where to wisely put our attention. Here are three practices to reclaim your attention, and replenish your reserves, so that you have the inner resources to do the work that is calling you. They are: train the mind, nourish the heart, and stay connected to purpose.
Time And Money: Reflection Questions and Exercise
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
12/22/2021
Use these reflection questions and exercise to practice moving from a place of scarcity to empowerment and conscious choice regarding money and time. The exercise will ask you to identify your thoughts, feelings, and needs. And it will ask you to identify both what to mourn and what next actions you want to take. It includes a feelings and needs sheet.
The Illusion of Conflicting Needs
Practice Exercise
30 minutes
09/08/2019
This exercise will help you resolve situations in which you have two needs which seem to be in conflict with each other, transforming inner conflict into peace.
Getting Out of Ourselves
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
06/10/2005
Trainer Tip: NVC asks us to be aware of our needs and discomfort is evidence of an unment need. However focusing on ourselves when we're uncomfortable isn't always the best choice.