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What About Psychopaths?

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 11/2015
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
11/2015

Sometimes we want to avoid placing our love and trust in someone, to protect our hearts and our life energies. And so there are deeper questions that we can use to check whether we're in relationship with someone who doesn't have capacity to be in relationship with us (eg. “Do I have a sense of mattering in this relationship?”). Read on for more questions we use to assess our empathy and efforts in relationships.


Paying Attention In Troubled Times

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 03/2019
All Skill Levels
Article
5 - 8 minutes
03/2019

Our world is facing stressful times. And the more stress you experience, the less resourced you can become. But consider that you're not messed up, but rather, the challenges you bear is a response to manufactured environments and culture that are more hostile than they are kind towards our human souls and bodies. And so, let’s be clear. Let’s be discerning. Let’s be compassionate. Let’s pay attention.


Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

Trainer Tip • 6 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
6 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: I feel overwhelmed thinking of writing to someone with cancer. What can I do?


The Four D's of Disconnection

Learning Tool • 1 page • 01/2008
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
1 page
01/2008

Learn to recognize four forms of thinking and speaking that are likely to lead to disconnection.


NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing

Video • 2 hours, 48 minutes • 02/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
2 hours, 48 minutes
02/2011

In this inspiring video, Gina Cenciose, CNVC Certified Trainer and Inner Relationship Focusing Guide and Instructor, offers an in-depth view of the distinctions and similarities between NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing (also known as IRF and Focusing).


Commitment

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/28/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/28/2005

Do you ever give up on disagreements, temporarily or permanently? Do you ever disengage from conflict because you’re certain the situation can't be resolved? Sometimes this applies. And consider how you may be giving up too soon, which decreases the possibility for resolution. This speaks to your level of commitment. How committed are you to valuing another’s needs and to finding resolution?


Nothing but the Facts

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: There's often a large gap between what we experience, and the story we make up about it. Noticing how our judgments and assumptions cloud our observations can be critical to creating a connection with others and maintaining a Nonviolent Communication consciousness.


Feelings vs Interpretations

Article • 1-2 minutes • 04/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Article
1-2 minutes
04/2020

Here's a list of words that pose as feelings, but are actually interpretations of what you think someone is doing to you. They trigger defensiveness in another thereby preventing a connected dialogue. Behind each of these words are precious feelings and needs. This sheet includes ways to distinguish feelings from interpretations.


Naturalizing NVC Language Series: Don’t Use That Psych 101 with Me!

Audio • 5 minutes • 06/07/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
5 minutes
06/07/2011

CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan helps a man whose ex-spouse reacted strongly to his attempt at empathizing with her. Miki shows us how it’s possible to hide behind our empathic expression, creating less rather than more connection. She suggests instead that we be vulnerably authentic.


Principle Based Teaching (6 Session Course)

Audio • 7 - 10 hours • 10/09/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
7 - 10 hours
10/09/2011

The focus of this 6-session class is on shifting the intention of your teaching from how to why while embodying the principles and practice of NVC every step of the way - from planning to delivery. The methodology Miki offers is to start with understanding what the people in your audience face in their environment, continue with what they might want to learn and how NVC principles can provide them with what they want, and end with how you can frame the principles in a language and context that speak to your audience’s familiar experience. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.