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Recognize and Manage Reactivity About Your Cause

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 05/05/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
05/05/2022

When we care about our cause and want to mitigate disaster, we may become reactive. However, transformation comes through connection, rather than convincing, judging, criticising, controlling, and making demands of others. To inspire change, get curious about how they relate to the topic – and get support for yourself elsewhere to process grief, become more present and compassionate, speak self-responsibly, and make requests.


Transforming Children's Anger

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 11/16/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
11/16/2021

What parent hasn't experienced a surge of protectiveness when your child hurts their sibling? Our cultural training calls us to immediately take two roles: the judge, determining who was wrong and what the consequences will be, and the police, enforcing the consequences. These thankless jobs often result in frustration, resentment, pain, for all. Read on for an example of how empathy transformed a child's impulse to hit another child.


Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/15/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/15/2005

Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.


Meeting Our Need for Creativity

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/28/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/28/2005

Anytime you create something new in your life, you can fulfill your need for creativity. Expand your concept of what it means to be creative. Read on for examples.


Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 12/30/2021
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
12/30/2021

Use this exercise to identify what state you're in at any moment, and as an exercise to grow capacity for self-awareness and self-compassion. Identify what happened, thoughts, sensations, feelings, longings, etc. Includes a table that outlines three states of being: Protective/Defensive, Vulnerability, Essence.


Expressing and Receiving “No” in NVC Consciousness

Audio • 1 hour, 21 minutes • 10/05/2009
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 21 minutes
10/05/2009

How we deal with “no” is a litmus test of our state of consciousness around power. Listen as John works with participants as they learn to give and receive a "no" from a consciousness of interpersonal connection.


Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 9 hours • 10/9/2013
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 9 hours
10/9/2013

Your needs and your values are your Life Force: the river that flows through your spirit and your life, giving life and light to your being. Explore this river with Robert, and map out routes that support your growth. Gain a deeper understadning and acceptance of the spirituality and beauty of needs and values.


What Do I Do When I Completely Forget My NVC Consciousness?

Audio • 35 minutes • 08/16/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
35 minutes
08/16/2014

We sometimes forget our intention to stay fully present and awake, it happens to all of us. Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this forgetting, how we hold it and what we can do about it.


Secure Differentiation

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 1/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
1/2019

Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. If you're happier when you are not in an intimate relationship you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn core skills and behaviors that support differentiation.


Evaluating Ourselves with Compassion

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Every time you criticize yourself, you cause yourself to feel shame and guilt, which promotes depression and stagnation. Instead, bringing in more self compassion can increase opportunities for change. Do this by acknowledging your needs (or values) that aren’t met by your actions. Read on for how to do this.


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