Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 6. Ask to Understand
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
Who does not want to be understood? In Tip #6, Eric shows you how to deepen connection and trust by checking your understanding with the person you are conversing with.
The Book of Love: Bringing You Closer to Your Lover
The Book of Love: Bringing You Closer to Your Lover
The Book of Love: Bringing You Closer to Your Lover
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Circa 2007
Trainer Tip: Could you tell me something I do that meets your need for love?
The Power of Difference: Work Challenges
Audio
5 minutes
07/10/2016
How do you bring empathy and authenticity to uncomfortable work situations when there are so many layers of difference – especially if your primary reason for working is to feed your family and pay your bills? Listen in as Roxy opens participants' eyes to some of the many layers of difference we all deal with on a daily basis.
Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/15/2005
Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.
Choice in the Face of Demands
Audio
1 hour, 8 minutes
03/11/2009
No one likes demands. Do you want to have access to choice when requests or demands come your way? Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she provides tools to free yourself from the submit/rebel dynamic.
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Meditation
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Meditation
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Meditation
Video
8 minutes
10/20/2022
Practice leads to change of consciousness! Enjoy an MBSR guided practice with Stephanie Bachmann Mattei: STOP = Stop, Take a few mindful breaths, Observe, and Proceed.
Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC
Article
3 - 5 minutes
08/2020
For us to have a more peaceful world and relationships, growing our skills to engage interdependently is key. An interdependence-oriented person may choose to attend to both inner factors and outer factors that affect their own and others' experiences. Unfortunately, this is likely to be misunderstood by independence-oriented people as enmeshment -- and this is where conflict emerges. Read on for more.
Find Space Between Needs And Strategies
Practice Exercise
4-6 minutes
1/19/2023
Confidence, flexibility, creativity and equanimity may become more possible when you would like someone to meet a particular need, can trust that you can meet that need with someone else, and can accept a “no” to your requests. You can allow grief or disappointment to arise, and naturally turn towards a relationship in which those needs can be met. In some cases this may lead to the dissolution of a partnership or friendship.
Tragic Expressions of Unmet Needs
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: The phrase “tragic expressions of unmet needs” is used to convey how often we do things that aren’t likely to meet our needs. It’s not bad, it’s tragic -- because it won’t help us meet our needs. Acknowledging this, we can then consider a different approach that's more likely to lead to satisfying results. Read on for three examples of where this may apply in your life.
Not Trusting the “Yes”
Audio
24 minutes
04/2008
In this audio recording, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don't trust someone's "yes," how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say "no" to our requests.