Confronting with Care: An Approach that Builds Trust
Confronting with Care: An Approach that Builds Trust
Confronting with Care: An Approach that Builds Trust
Article
7 - 10 minutes
11/2010
People find confrontation inspirational when done with full compassion and intention to support. To do this, transform your own judgments or distress, come with useful content plus spot-on timing, and the best interests of the receiver in mind. Read on for questions you can ask yourself in preparation for this, and more.
Naturalizing NVC Language Series: Can NVC Be Taught Without Using OFNR?
Naturalizing NVC Language Series: Can NVC Be Taught Without Using OFNR?
Naturalizing NVC Language Series: Can NVC Be Taught Without Using OFNR?
Video
2 minutes
06/07/2011
CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan explains has developed a path to teaching NVC without relying on OFNR: Principle-based Teaching.
I Want To Connect More Than I Want To Be Right
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
12/22/2021
Trainer Tip: We have a better chance of getting our needs met if we prioritize connecting with one another's needs more than being right. This way we can reduce the chances of conflict arising. We also increase the possibility we can find ways everyone’s needs can be met.
Tuning in to the Gratitude Channel
Audio
52 minutes
01/2010
CNVC Certified Trainers Jim and Jori Manske show you how to tune into the "Gratitude Channel," sharing exercises and practices to hone your awareness toward gratitude.
Simple Self-Empathy Tools to Help You Enjoy the Holidays
Simple Self-Empathy Tools to Help You Enjoy the Holidays
Simple Self-Empathy Tools to Help You Enjoy the Holidays
Audio
39 minutes
12/2011
Join CNVC Certified Trainer Mary Mackenzie to learn a few of her tried-and-true simple Self-Empathy techniques, especially focused on the challenges of the holiday season.
Self-Righteous Anger
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
08/31/2005
Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel.
The Importance of Anger
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
05/05/2022
Anger matters because it can let you know that you perceive a threat to universal need for yourself or someone else. It can draw your attention to something so that you can take effective action. Anger becomes a hindrance when you amp it up with your thoughts about what should(n't) happen. Instead, notice any "should" thoughts, see anger as a signal, accept that it's okay to have it, and look for feelings and needs underneath it.
Money, Value, and Our Choices
Article
10 - 15 minutes
11/2013
How much money to pay? And how much money to ask for? The supply and demand logic basically say that we ask for the most that “the market can absorb” and pay “the least that we can get away with.” We can instead, we can engage in experiments that focus on connecting to and satisfying needs. We can also engage with our varying degrees of access to resources within the existing economy and consider how we want to make choices about resources, especially when we have access to power.
The Freedom of Committing to a Path
Article
5 - 8 minutes
02/03/2012
In June, 1996, I had an epiphany. In a motel room in Indiana, the night before returning home from a solo camping trip in Michigan and Canada, I discovered how much I had lost in my life because of so fiercely protecting myself. Up until that day, bringing forth my vulnerable self was to be avoided at all costs, which kept me numb much of the time, disconnected from myself and from much of life. Alone in my room, I cried, I talked out loud, and I finally exclaimed to myself that I wanted to reclaim every last bit of my vulnerability, just like I had it as a child.
Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016
When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain