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Celebrate Your Progress!

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/13/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/13/2022

Trainer Tip: Overwhelmed with all that you want to do? If so, what are you working to change? Is it a behavior or a consciousness? Where were you with this issue when you first decided to create change? And now where are you? Celebrating your progress can encourage you to keep trying. You wouldn’t expect to jump on a treadmill and jog three miles the first time. Don't have the same expectations for your emotional fitness either!


Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/15/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/15/2005

Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.


Why Do I Feel Depressed?

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 04/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
7 - 11 minutes
04/2018

When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems?  This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can inadvertertly support unhealthy ways of operating, rather than become a healthy solution.  It asks us to see what could be hidden -- both on the personal and societal levels.


Two Basics That Support Conflict Resolution

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 02/19/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
02/19/2022

Connecting with self and other is key to care and creativity. Before dialogue connect with your intention and needs for being with grief, fear or pain, and empathy. Dialogue when you're both rested, fed, and have spaciousness. Start by expressing care and desire to find mutually satisfying solutions. To deepen connection you may repeat what you hear and ask the other person to do the same.


What is Nonviolent Communication?

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: NVC focuses on shared human values and needs, and encourages the use of language that increases good will -- plus avoidance of language that contributes to resentment or lowered self-esteem. It emphasizes taking personal responsibility for choices and improving the quality of relationships as a primary goal. For today, focus on making observations without moralistic judgment in at least two of your interactions.


Moving Beyond Needs as Met or Unmet

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 10/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes
10/2019

Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to resist a request made from this stance. Instead, here are practices to increasingly losen any remaining attachment or demand energy -- and open our hearts to ourselves and others while we make requests.


Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

Article • 4- 6 minutes • 02/2021
All Skill Levels
Article
4- 6 minutes
02/2021

With worthlessness comes the idea of not belonging or not being worthy of belonging. In this context, belonging is more than an identity with a particular group. It is the sort of belonging that enables you to get other fundamental needs met, including safety, support, nourishment, and love. Unconscious attempts win worthiness and belonging often effectively blocks the very thing its pursuing. Read on for more.


Becoming a Change Agent Everywhere You Go (4 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 10/7/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
10/7/2015

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed – or locked into passivity? This course offers you a way out. Learn to change the way you perceive leadership, and you’ll help yourself respond more powerfully and proactively every day of your life – wherever you are – and whomever you’re with!


Working with Resistance

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 4/2011
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes
4/2011

With coaching or counselling clients, their resistance can show up as “bracing against” something. But if we push back against their resistance, we miss noticing what they're protecting or embracing. By going into resistance clients build awareness and often shift when they get clear about their underlying needs, and new choices. Some clients don’t shift even after we’ve tried everything. In that case, read on to learn about Frank Farrelly's "provocative therapy".


Honest Expression: Expressing Needs Clearly, Honestly and Compassionately

Video • 29 minutes • 09/26/2016
Introductory Skill Level
Video
29 minutes
09/26/2016

Mary explains the value of expressing ourselves honestly. Watch as Mary uses the 4-step Nonviolent Communication process to express needs clearly, honestly and compassionately. She follows with concrete examples to help you anchor your learning process to deepen your authenticity and honest expression skills.


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