john kinyon 200x250In the Spotlight: John Kinyon


John is co-creator of the Mediate Your Life (MYL) training program that is offered in different parts of the U.S. and in Asia, Europe, and Australia since 2003, including conflict management training in organizations. The MYL approach is based in the international work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and integrates a mediation framework, mindfulness/awareness, and neuroscience. The training provides skills and conversation “maps” for navigating challenges and conflicts, inner and outer, in all aspects of life. John has been a certified trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) since 2000. He was mentored by NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg for over a decade and has been a leader in the global NVC community. John coaches and mediates in a wide range of contexts, and is an author and speaker.

John received his undergraduate degree from the University of San Francisco, where he studied psychology and philosophy (and played for USF’s nationally ranked soccer team). He went on to graduate training in clinical psychology at Penn State University. During his five years of doctoral study, he worked as a psychotherapist with individuals and groups, and as a research assistant at the Stress and Anxiety Disorders Institute. After graduate school, John helped launch and develop a small commercial business before discovering Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In 2000, he embraced full-time communication and conflict resolution work, and in 2002 co-founded the Bay Area NVC organization (BayNVC). In 2003, he began co-developing with colleague Ike Lasater the Mediate Your Life training program. John lives with his wife and children in the San Francisco Bay Area. 

John is co-author of the books:

John's upcoming videofonference, The Tao of Empathy, begins in June. Check it out!

We've just added another complete course from John and Ike Lasater into the Library, Healing and Reconciliation. Listen to the fist session below.

Listen to this newly remastered audio with seasoned Life Coach and CNVC Certified Trainers Martha Lasley and Dian Killian, to explore how you can "be the change" in your life, to live fully in integrity with your values in your work, community, faith and social action groups.

The introductory session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy:

Additional Info

  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 00:51 hours:minutes
  • Production Date 12/2008
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  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 2
  • Multi Trainer Links Dian Killian and Martha Lasley
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Here's a quick tip to improve your empathy skills with empathy guessing.

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  • Date Written/Produced 04/29/2019
  • Duration 00:06 hours:minutes
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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips

Empathy guessing when I was new to NVC seemed magical and mysterious. How could that other person have known that about me? And seen inside me — often in ways I'd missed myself. While empathy is both intuitive and an art, there is also a science to it. In this brief yet fascinating introduction to Dian's course, Empathy Magic, you'll learn a super-practical way to demystify empathy guessing by making use of the root meaning of words.

Additional Info

  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 00:45 hours:minutes
  • Production Date 11/17/2018
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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In life, relationships, and organizations, authenticity is the bedrock of effectiveness. It can give rise to effective dialogues, information flow, intimacy, accountability, decision making and follow through. NVC can give us more tools to live with rigor around our authenticity...

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  • Date Written/Produced 7/2017
  • Duration Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Sitting with uncertainty can be very uncomfortable and evoke anxiety. Or it can be a practice that brings in the curiosity and inner spaciousness that allows for creative solutions to emerge, and that help us to relax our attachment to outcomes.  Here's a closer look...

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  • Date Written/Produced 12/2018
  • Duration Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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We can trick ourselves into keeping the status quo, feeling unworthy, and blocking access to critical awareness necessary that allows for new creative solutions to emerge -- when we think in terms of who has "earned" or “deserved” what.

Additional Info

  • Date Written/Produced 8/2017
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Want to manage more effectively with more ease and joy and get your staff to make changes? The first, crucial step is to learn how to change your behavior to impact what's happening. For example, we can get the inner clarity we need to reframe questions we ask ourselves, recap, make clear requests, give concrete feedback, etc. This article expands on how self-management can increase influence...

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  • Date Written/Produced 9/2016
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Our "felt-sense" can provide crucial information about our experience and our lives. It can also help us integrate and retain information. This can also bring greater access to internal resources, choice, open heartedness, collaboration and creative solutions. From there, profound insight and transformation can follow. Here's how we can harness that...

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  • Date Written/Produced 2/2014
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and living in a city where people have some trust in one another's intentions.

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  • Date Written/Produced 1/2018
  • Duration Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection.  The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc).  Once we let the map drop away, we can engage with the people in our lives in a more heartfelt way.  This article explains more about how we can use the map to remind us of our  heartfelt consciousness...

Additional Info

  • Date Written/Produced 4/2014
  • Duration Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
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