These guiding questions will help you review your motives and approach before engaging in especially important conversations. Carry it with you, share it with the other person if possible, and make a decision to stay on track instead of getting pulled into old speaking and listening habits that aren't working.

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  • Date Written/Produced 04/2019
  • Duration Read time: 1 - 3 minutes
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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 2
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When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems?  This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can inadvertertly support unhealthy ways of operating, rather than become a healthy solution.  It asks us to see what could be hidden -- both on the personal and societal levels.

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  • Date Written/Produced 04/2018
  • Duration Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work?  This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC.  It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life".  And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

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  • Date Written/Produced 12/2017
  • Duration Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Points 12
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing others' experiences even if it challenges our personal and collective belief systems -- and especially when it upsets us to consider it...

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  • Date Written/Produced 03/2018
  • Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...

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  • Date Written/Produced 01/2018
  • Duration Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
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  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree.  Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves?  Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness...

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  • Date Written/Produced 04/2018
  • Duration Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Points 10
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Rachelle Lamb invites us to consider how our well being is impacted by what we choose to put at the center of our narrative regarding our needs.  And how that affects whether or not we get closer to truly serving life and compassion...

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  • Date Written/Produced 06/15/2017
  • Duration 7 - 10 minutes
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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Points 8
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Unappreciated, Judged, Disrespected, Offended, Manipulated ... people use these words to describe feelings but these are all words that describe interpretations instead. They're also words that get people's backs up. Talk about unproductive! The solution? Develop a vocabulary of feelings so you can minimize defensiveness in others and facilitate connection.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 00:02 hours:minutes
  • Production Date 05/13/2011
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  • Points 1
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Rachelle offers proven steps to substantially boost meeting productivity and efficiency, and make meetings more productive and enjoyable for everyone, when using NVC.

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  • Date Written/Produced 01/2009
  • Duration 4 pages
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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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