Eric Bowers explains how needs and strategies correlate to different brain hemispheres, and how relaxing into our needs opens us to greater possibilities. When we give our full attention to our needs along with the sensations and feelings connected to them, then we better access the right hemisphere of the brain and regulate the neural networks in the body. Needs are universal abstract qualities such as acceptance, trust, belonging, connection, and fun that are not attached to specific people, actions, or outcomes. Problem solving and strategizing to meet our needs puts us in the left hemisphere of the brain. If we first give our full attention to our feelings and needs without leaping to a specific solution or strategy to meet those needs, we access the right hemisphere and thus have a more integrated and calm brain from which to find solutions. Next time you find yourself stuck in fruitless strategizing or rumination, put your attention on the sensations and feelings in your body and the needs they are pointing to. If you find yourself saying or thinking, "I need her to understand me," or, "I need him to accept me," set aside the person involved and give your full attention to the need. You could think to yourself, "I have a need to be understood," or, "I have a need for acceptance." The left hemisphere will likely want to take over and attach that need to a person, action or outcome. Keep returning to just the need and the sensations and feelings in your body. See if there is a deeper need beneath the one you have found. Ask yourself, “If this need were met for me, is there a deeper need that would be met?” In the above example, you might ask yourself, “Could my deeper need be for belonging or love?” Think of other times when that need has been fulfilled in other ways. If you can accept and embrace your feelings and needs, your nervous system can relax, and you will have a more integrated brain from which to find different solutions.