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Responding to Criticism: At Work and At Home

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Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
In general, criticism is a reactive response discomfort. When someone criticizes, they are not yet able or willing take responsibility for their needs. All criticism is a tragic expression of feelings and unmet needs. When you meet that criticism skillfully you not only care for yourself, you can facilitate clarity, and constructive communication, about what the other person is truly asking for.
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Steps Towards Meaningful Action

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Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.) Bring in support for more resilience and creativity.
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Using NVC When the Going Gets Rough: Someone Yelling at You? Getting Beyond Freezing or Shouting Back

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Audio  •  00:41 hours:minutes
Irmtraud shares the strategies she developed for herself to connect empathically even when someone is yelling at her.
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Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

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Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 6-9 minutes
For each reactive pattern there is a perceived threat to a tender need. Knowing these tender needs helps us figure out how to interrupt these patterns and creating new ways of perceiving and relating to life. In addition to knowing the need, knowing the healing response and the primary reactive behavior helps with transformation.
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Connected Decision Making

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Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 2-3 minutes
If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.
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Calling Out / Calling In

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Advanced Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over caring for people who bear the invisible brunt of such norms.
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Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

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Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
How do we address historical and present challenges regarding the invisibility of privilege and power? What can we do, especially if we are people with privilege, to transform these conditions?  However challenging these kinds of situations are, and whatever our position, we can move towards more inclusivity by learning and doing significant inner and outer work.
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Privilege and Needs - Part 2

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All Skill Levels  •  Article  •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What is it that we are taught we can’t have, and what is it that we are encouraged to pursue instead? This guide could help you see through what's hidden behind the curtain of our societal conditioning.
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Privilege and Needs - Part 1

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Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
There's the real need. And then there's the privilege that’s offered as a substitute for it. Privilege substitutes support the existing structure of society. It can look to us as if giving up the privilege would amount to giving up everything -- if we don't believe the real needs can even be experienced. If we connected directly to the needs, we could become subversive, agents of change.
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From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (2017 Telethon)

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Video  •  40 minutes

Finding ways of connecting across differences can be challenging and confusing — Join Roxanne Manning for an exploration and discussion of the concepts she's found helpful for navigating these kinds of difficult situations and enrich your life!

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