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Engaging in conversations about power and privilege

Video • 3.5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
3.5 minutes

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to talking about power and privilege. Context, purpose, who is present and why all play a part in how you can orient to these conversations. In this video, Miki describes the deep considerations she makes when discussing this topic with others and in her leadership training.

Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

Practice Exercise • 4-6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4-6 minutes

Confidence, flexibility, creativity and equanimity may become more possible when you would like someone to meet a particular need, can trust that you can meet that need with someone else, and can accept a “no” to your requests. You can allow grief or disappointment to arise, and naturally turn towards a relationship in which those needs can be met. In some cases this may lead to the dissolution of a partnership or friendship.

Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

Article • 16 - 24 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
16 - 24 minutes

Whether privileged or not, its not easy to see the humanity of others in different social locations, especially if their actions have unwanted impacts and have left behind our humanity. Aiming for “both sides hearing each other” empathically, and to focus on effect rather than intent when we have more privilege, may theoretically lead to liberation. Yet, in practice it can reinforce rather than transcend power differences -- unless there's specific ways to focus attention and choice. Here, its important to transform expectations into working with willingness, and within our own terms and timetable.

The Challenge Of Connecting Dots

Article • 10 - 15 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
10 - 15 minutes

The word "privilege" signifies the benefit to the person having it, and the relationship between that person’s benefit and others' lack of benefit. When privileged, there are incentives to not see this interdependent link. For instance, it's easier for the wealthy to think of the poverty of many and the wealth of some are unrelated. If the wealthy want to keep wealth they would need to continue with approaches rooted in this separation.

How To Make A Relationship A Priority While Maintaining Autonomy

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes

Part of making your relationship a priority while maintaining autonomy means you consider the impact your actions may have on your relationship and look to negotiate ways all needs can be honored. To do this while not losing yourself, practice writing down your needs and guessing their needs beforehand. Make an upfront request to create a shared understanding about what’s most important, before discussing strategies or decisions.

Liberation For All: How We Can Talk Differently About Power And Privilege

Article • 22 - 31 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
22 - 31 minutes

Whether we have more or less power and privilege, anything without liberation for all is within patriarchal separation, and will continue cycles of oppression. To liberate ourselves and one another we need to increase our collective capacity through developing related knowledge, skills, research; build an understanding of patriarchal roots; confront lovingly; co-hold dilemmas about privilege; co-shape outcomes; etc.

Interventions For Anger

Practice Exercise • 3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3-5 minutes

Anger is a sign that you're resisting what's happening because you perceive an overwhelming threat, not trusting yourself to handle what's happening directly. Vulnerable feelings under anger are usually fear, hurt, or grief. Experiencing and expressing these feelings and connecting them to your needs, gives you access to more skill, insight, compassion, and wisdom. Read on for 3 questions to ask yourself when angry.

Inoculation For Outrage

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes

When outraged or resigned over polarized issues, pause to ask yourself who may be benefiting from this conflict? What are we not paying attention to that’s even more important? What matters most? Am I being distracted away from something more important? What do I really want? Where can I choose to focus attention and action for the wellbeing of all life on the planet (which is also my wellbeing and the well being of those I love)?

How is a Restorative Circle Process different from mediation?

Video • 2 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
2 minutes

Some people assume that restorative circles and mediation are synonymous. Ceri, Jo, and Sarah are here to show that they are much more different than some may think. Watch this video to understand the distinctions around roles, settings, processes, and the people involved in mediation versus restorative circles.

Effective Collaboration

Video • 43 minutes

43 minutes

Watch Jim and Jori Manske in this video as they share three key learnings about collaborating effectively.

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