What About Psychopaths?
with Sarah Peyton
Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
Article
Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
Sometimes we want to avoid placing our love and trust in someone, to protect our hearts and our life energies. And so there are deeper questions that we can use to check whether we're in relationship with someone who doesn't have capacity to be in relationship with us (eg. “Do I have a sense of mattering in this relationship?”). Read on for more questions we use to assess our empathy and efforts in relationships.
Empathy Buddy Guidelines
with Peggy Smith
Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
Article
Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
Here are some guidelines and agreements for creating empathy buddy sessions. Includes a list of blocks to empathy.
Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace
with Miki Kashtan
All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
Article
Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of active interdependence.
Engage Your Curiosity
with Mary Mackenzie
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.
Feelings Cards
with Peggy Smith
Beginner Skill Level • Learning Tool • Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
Learning Tool
Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
Print-and-cut these 56 feelings cards for one-on-one, partner or group activities, to help support the pratice of empathy. Includes eight blank cards for you to customize.
Social Dynamics During the Holidays
with Jori Manske
Intermediate Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
During the holiday season we may find ourselves taking responsibility for other's feelings, which can lead to guilt, shame, depression, and resentment. These feelings are exacerbated by the habitual pattern we call the "Vortex of Submission" (being hooked by a sense of duty and obligation). Read on for ways to recognize and break the pattern.
Equanimity and the Holidays
with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2-3 minutes
Article
Read time: 2-3 minutes
If you're unpleasantly triggered during the holidays you may find yourself responding in ways you don't like. Start by acknowledging how affected you are to bring in more curiosity, mindfulness and eventually, authentic and discerning choices.
Needs-Based Negotiation
with Mary Mackenzie
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When we create situations that value one person’s needs at the expense of another, we open the door for someone to lose. Instead, look to see if you can speak openly and honestly, value the other person’s needs, and create solutions that value all stakeholder needs.
Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards
with Peggy Smith
Beginner Skill Level • Practice Exercise • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Practice Exercise
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
This guide features three activities that use feelings and needs cards: two verions of "Feelings and Needs Poker" and one for "Self-Empathy". Great for practicing alone, with a partner, or in a group.
How I Changed My Relationship to Time
with Miki Kashtan
Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above the internal rhythm of your life energy? This is an invitation into more responsibility, awareness, honesty, choice and freedom.
