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Overcoming Defensiveness

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All Skill Levels  •  Article  •  Read time: 5 - 7 minutes
A big part of why receiving feedback is so challenging is because so few people around us know how to give feedback untainted with criticism, judgment, or our personal upset. But, if we wait for others to offer us usable, digestible, manageable feedback, we will not likely receive sufficient feedback for our growth and learning. Instead, we can grow in our capacity to fish the pearl that’s buried within. Here are three specific suggestions for how.
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Working with Resistance

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All Skill Levels  •  Article  •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
With coaching or counselling clients, their resistance can show up as “bracing against” something. But if we push back against their resistance, we miss noticing what they're protecting or embracing. By going into resistance clients build awareness and often shift when they get clear about their underlying needs, and new choices. Some clients don’t shift even after we’ve tried everything. In that case, read on to learn about Frank Farrelly's "provocative therapy".
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Expressing Ourselves Honestly

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Introductory Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.
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Observing without Judgment

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Introductory Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.
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The Power of Authenticity + Care

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All Skill Levels  •  Article  •  Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
When we're on the receiving end of pain-stimulating assumptions, a microaggression, or prejudice --when we're reactive and resultingly have self doubt, guilt or shame in ourselves-- is it possible to be intensely authentic while holding care for everyone in the situation? Can we effectively do this even as a third party witnesses to these things?
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Living in Full Authenticity

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Introductory Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
In life, relationships, and organizations, authenticity is the bedrock of effectiveness. It can give rise to effective dialogues, information flow, intimacy, accountability, decision making and follow through. NVC can give us more tools to live with rigor around our authenticity...
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Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

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Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and living in a city where people have some trust in one another's intentions.

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Hear the Needs

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Introductory Skill Level  •  Video  •  26:59 hours/minutes
This is a documentary of the use of Nonviolent Communication at Euclid High School, Ohio, in a history class with a teacher practicing NVC accompanied by CNVC Certified Trainer Catherine Cadden. Remastered in February 2019 to reduce ambient noise.
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Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

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Introductory Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathise, be present, attuned, or responsive?  Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected in our relationships.
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The Gift of Compassionate Giving

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Introductory Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on "mutual giving from the heart"? Using examples, this article offers models for us to follow that could inspire us to treat our NVC practice as one of compassionate giving and receiving.
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