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Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what you want to say "yes" to (regarding your needs and theirs) by saying "no"; what prevents you from saying "yes"; plus your request and how you might express it.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 12/23/2021
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  • Payee NVC Academy
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Trainer Tip: Sometimes the people in our lives don’t yet have the skills to speak directly about what they want. When this happens we can make guesses about how they feel and what they want. This can lead to greater connection and chances we all can be more satisfied with our interactions.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Trainer Tip: We have a better chance of getting our needs met if we prioritize connecting with one another's needs more than being right. This way we can reduce the chances of conflict arising. We also increase the possibility we can find ways everyone’s needs can be met.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Fully connecting to the deeper need under the anger can transform and release the anger, without requiring the other person to do anything differently. From there, you can reach an understanding of the other person's experience, feelings and needs underlying the actions that stimulated your anger to re-establish connection with your own and the other person's humanity.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 2 -3 minutes
  • Date Added 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Kathy Simon, NGL
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Here are 10 tips for empathy buddy practice. It includes a handout identifying 15 non-empathy responses to step aside from when you practice.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Date Added 12/22/2021
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  • Payee Eric Bowers
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Listen to Jared and Kathleen explore the paradigms of interdependence and separateness through the continuum of mourning to blaming.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 7 minutes
  • Production Date 12/22/2021

 Experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs. Heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 45 minutes
  • Production Date 7/27/2017

Receiving anger from another can be a reactive trigger for many of us. In this brief segment, Arnina provides us a strategy for staying in the conversation instead of physically leaving.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 minutes
  • Date Added 12/12/21
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  • Payee Arnina Kashtan
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Trainer Tip: Wanting collaboration? Show you value the other person's needs as much as your own. After you both feel heard, you can make joint decisions about specifics of the agreement, such as "division of work", "scope of project", "when the action will take place", "how it'll be done" and "timing of follow up to see how things went". Read on for an example of how this is applied to asking someone to pitch in with doing chores.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 12/4/2021
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Every interaction with children contains messages about who they are, who we are, and what life is like. By engaging attachment parenting and NVC we give them rare gifts in society: to know their parents well, to discover the effects of their actions without being blamed for them, and to experience the power of contributing to meeting others' needs, and the power to move towards mutually satisfying outcomes.

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration 12 - 18 minutes
  • Date Added 12/2/2021
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee Kathy Simon
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1