In the Spotlight: Parenting

NVC and ParentingNVC shares two key premises with attachment parenting: Human actions are motivated by attempts to meet needs, and trusting relationships are built through attentiveness to those needs. Both premises contrast with prevailing childrearing practices and with the assumptions about human beings that underlie these practices. Instead of focusing on authority and discipline, attachment parenting and NVC provide theoretical and practical grounds for nurturing compassionate, powerful, and creative children who will have resources to contribute to a peaceful society.

Marshall Rosenberg, founder and education director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, asks parents two questions to point out the severe limitations of using power-over tactics such as reward and punishment: “What do you want the child to do?” and “What do you want the child’s reasons to be for doing so?” Do we really want our child to do something out of fear? Guilt? Shame? Obligation? Desire for reward? While helping us meet our needs without coercion, NVC also helps us resist giving in to our children’s every wish by teaching us to express our feelings, needs, and requests clearly, and to expect our needs to be considered. When we consistently express our commitment to attending to everyone’s needs–not just theirs, not just our own–we model a way of life to our children and create power with them: the power of choosing to contribute to making life more wonderful for everyone.

Listen now to part 1 of Bringing Peace to Kids in Conflict with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei just below.

Plus, check out our two new parenting courses. Connected Based Parenting with Ian Peatey and Monica Reu is a self-paced parenting course with a collaborative approach rooted in awareness and presence. Parenting without Obedience: An Introduction to Intergenerational Collaboration with Miki Kashtan, Arnina Kashtan and Lisa Rothman is a live videoconference founded on the principle of creating relationship in which both your needs and those of your children are fully included.

 

Bringing Peace to Kids in Conflict (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 9 -12 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 -12 hours

This 6-session telecourse recording focuses on supporting people who work with children (e.g. parents, teachers, ministers, etc.) in applying the skills of NVC mediation in conflict situations that involve children.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. 


Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (Part 1)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 01:09 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
01:09 hours:minutes
John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace.

Introduction to Using NVC in Parenting

Introductory Skill Level • Video • 00:38 hours:minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Video
00:38 hours:minutes
In this brief video, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, offers a succinct and insightful overview for using Nonviolent Communication in your parenting role.

Attachment and Connection as a Foundation for Parenting--and Life!

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:40 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:40 hours:minutes
Ingrid shares about the three primary keys of parenting & NVC, two child rearing models, developmental needs for children and how to foster secure attachment.

Loving Our Role as Parent

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When we love a child there's a contribution we can provide in helping them go their own way successfully, in big ways and small.

Parenting with Nonviolent Communication

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
This article aims to discuss shifting fully from power-over to sharing power in families; turning power struggles into dilemmas.  It focuses on the topic of living in a partnership paradigm as a family...

Using NVC When the Going Gets Rough: If Mom/Dad Ain't Happy, Nobody Is!

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:50 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:50 hours:minutes
Parenting can bring out the worst in us. Let's learn to meet the challenges of parenting with awareness, self-compassion and a spirit of inquiry, and explore a few practices to regain self-regulation, choice and freedom, staying anchored in the realization that as human beings we do have the capacity to respond with discernment rather than habitual reactivity.

Parenting Series: When Your Child Only Has “No” for an Answer

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes
In this video download, expert parent trainer and author of Parenting From Your Heart, Inbal Kashtan responds to the age-old question: "Why do children do things to annoy parents?"

Parenting Series: Understanding Requests and Demands

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:08 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:08 hours:minutes
Inbal speaks to a group about our habit of demanding something of our children but making it sound like a request, the components of a true request and the importance of being honest when making a demand.

Parenting Series: Compliance and the “Yes” Inside the “No”

Beginner Skill Level • Video • 00:11 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
00:11 hours:minutes
Inbal responds to the question "Is bribery an acceptable tool for compliance?' and helps us understand the five habitual reasons we do things.

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