In the Spotlight: Parenting & Anger

NVC and ParentingNVC shares two key premises with attachment parenting: Human actions are motivated by attempts to meet needs, and trusting relationships are built through attentiveness to those needs. Both premises contrast with prevailing childrearing practices and with the assumptions about human beings that underlie these practices. Instead of focusing on authority and discipline, attachment parenting and NVC provide theoretical and practical grounds for nurturing compassionate, powerful, and creative children who will have resources to contribute to a peaceful society.

Marshall Rosenberg, founder and education director of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, asks parents two questions to point out the severe limitations of using power-over tactics such as reward and punishment: “What do you want the child to do?” and “What do you want the child’s reasons to be for doing so?” Do we really want our child to do something out of fear? Guilt? Shame? Obligation? Desire for reward? While helping us meet our needs without coercion, NVC also helps us resist giving in to our children’s every wish by teaching us to express our feelings, needs, and requests clearly, and to expect our needs to be considered. When we consistently express our commitment to attending to everyone’s needs–not just theirs, not just our own–we model a way of life to our children and create power with them: the power of choosing to contribute to making life more wonderful for everyone.

Listen now to part 1 of Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace, with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei  All may listen to and enjoy the first session of this course just below.

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 6 - 8 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours

John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace.

 The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.


Parenting with Nonviolent Communication

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
This article aims to discuss shifting fully from power-over to sharing power in families; turning power struggles into dilemmas.  It focuses on the topic of living in a partnership paradigm as a family...

Baby Giraffes: NVC Parenting of Children Under 5 (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 03:26 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
03:26 hours:minutes
This 3-part telecourse recording explores what it means to practice “power with” parenting with babies, toddlers and preschoolers. Ingrid has been teaching and writing about very young children for a decade and has a special passion for this age range.

The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 07:29 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
07:29 hours:minutes
As parents, we often face challenging situations on a daily basis and struggle to create what we most long for. In this 6 session telecourse recording, you will learn how Nonviolent Communication can support a family culture where cooperation, trust, and peace are nurtured, and children and parents can flourish together.

Bringing Peace to Kids in Conflict (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 9 -12 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 -12 hours

This 6-session telecourse recording focuses on supporting people who work with children (e.g. parents, teachers, ministers, etc.) in applying the skills of NVC mediation in conflict situations that involve children.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. 


Attachment and Connection as a Foundation for Parenting--and Life!

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:40 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:40 hours:minutes
Ingrid shares about the three primary keys of parenting & NVC, two child rearing models, developmental needs for children and how to foster secure attachment.

Connected Parenting: Everyone's Needs Matter

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:04 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:04 hours:minutes
In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, offers a profound insight that can change how we see and relate to our children.

Connected Parenting: Making Observations

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:07 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:07 hours:minutes
In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, explores observation in contrast to interpretation, and leads an exercise in observation.

Parenting from Your Heart - Q&A

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 01:04 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
01:04 hours:minutes
Please join us as we remember the work and life of Inbal Kashtan. She offered this parenting Q&A session in NVC Academy's 2013 Parenting Conference.

Using NVC When the Going Gets Rough: If Mom/Dad Ain't Happy, Nobody Is!

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 00:50 hours:minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
00:50 hours:minutes
Parenting can bring out the worst in us. Let's learn to meet the challenges of parenting with awareness, self-compassion and a spirit of inquiry, and explore a few practices to regain self-regulation, choice and freedom, staying anchored in the realization that as human beings we do have the capacity to respond with discernment rather than habitual reactivity.

 
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