How can we respond when we’re horrified by what someone says? How can we deepen our connection to our humanness and authenticity when the impact is hurtful? Read on to see examples of the three steps of "calling out", "calling in", and "calling forth".

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 8/2014
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  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
A challenge is an expansion of making a clear, positive doable request — and, when given, the person feels deeply seen by the challenger. A challenge isn't just about getting someone to take action on something important to them; it's a fierce form of empathy that supports people in connecting with their life force, and integrates it into their lives with action. A real challenge is tied to the receiver's goals, passions and dreams -- and expands their potential.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 2/2015
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
If we are in the dominant group, intervening to prevent violence or an "ouch" is a way to ally with marginalized folks. We can intervene to meet their needs, rather than our own. In other words, we can intervene without putting our experience at center stage. To that end, here are six ways to ask if an intervention is welcome.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
  • Production Date 7/2019
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-4 minutes
  • Production Date 8/2019
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Misunderstandings can be painful. We can easily avoid this by checking what the other person understood from what we said, and ask the other person to do the same. Doing this is especially important when it comes to planning, shared decision-making, and when emotions are strong. Also, the more someone knows you, the more they think they already know what you mean -- which can get in the way of really hearing you. Here are a variety of ways to approach this simple strategy.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 2-3 minutes
  • Production Date 8/2019
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Trainer Tip: We often find ourselves slipping into old behaviors that we would rather change. This is because we don’t have a new plan for responding to the same old situations. In that case, notice whether you are slipping into old behaviors today. Connect to your unmet needs and then identify a new strategy for the situation.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their emotional support.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Production Date 1/2019
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  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
A big part of why receiving feedback is so challenging is because so few people around us know how to give feedback untainted with criticism, judgment, or our personal upset. But, if we wait for others to offer us usable, digestible, manageable feedback, we will not likely receive sufficient feedback for our growth and learning. Instead, we can grow in our capacity to fish the pearl that’s buried within. Here are three specific suggestions for how.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 7 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2010
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  • Points 4
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Jim and Jori discuss the root of Nonviolent Communication, needs consciousness. Participate in guided processes to deepen your own needs consciousness.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 01:35 hours:minutes
  • Production Date 06/22/2019
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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