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Victims of Domestic Violence Can Experience Empowerment Through Self-Validation and Self-Empathy

Article • 6 - 9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

In pandemic many are asked to stay home. If we are experiencing violence at home we're also most at risk of harm or death if we leave. There are also less visible pieces at work. In this situation, acknowledging our pain, needs and experience can lighten the internal load to meet what is real, and claim our truth. We can do the same for our kids. This can open more pathways forward, and provide strength to leave when its more viable.


Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Tap into feelings, needs and requests for greater self connection with the six steps in this worksheet.


3 Strategies for Working With Worry

Article • 4-6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4-6 minutes

Follow worry to the underlying universal need and discern wise action. To get there, we can try out prayer, wishes, savoring the need, or compassionate witnessing. If you notice and name the aspects of worry continuously, the compassionate witnessing practice will interrupt the habitual spinning of worry-filled stories. There are at least six things you can witness with curiosity. Read on for more.


Hearing the Yes behind the No

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: It's often easy for us to hear rejection when someone says “no” to us. If we focus on the rejection, we may feel hurt and fail to take the time to understand what is going on with them. However, if we focus on their feelings and needs, we're more likely to uncover what they want and what prevents them. To increase success in resolving conflicts and find solutions that work for everyone, hear the “yes” behind their "no".


Saying Thank You without Judgment

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: From the NVC perspective, everything someone says or does is either a “please” or a “thank you". In our culture, saying “thank you” usually involves an appreciation in the form of judgment or evaluation. Remember, whether we judge someone as good or bad, judgments and evaluations can create disconnect or tension. Instead, notice how their actions have enriched life, and what feelings it stimulated.


Interdependence vs. Dependence/Independence

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: NVC consciousness recognizes interdependence. In this process each person is autonomous; everyone's needs matter; people have choice and responsibility for their actions; there's abundance, and a valuing of coming together. The dependence / independence paradigm assumes we either need someone else to be whole -- or we don’t need others at all. Commit to living autonomously. Notice where you struggle with this.


Finding Systemic Solutions to Systemic Problems. (Part 4/10 from the "Apart and Together" series)

Article • 23 - 34 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
23 - 34 minutes

Society gives us short-sighted explanations about human nature, life and what’s (un)changeable. The coronavirus pandemic is disrupting that explanation. Our current social order upholds impoverishment, police brutality, and is leading us towards our extinction. Change begins with people mobilizing resources towards a vision that holds systemic care for all, plus engages shared risk and collective action towards that vision.


Making NVC Relevant to a World in Crisis: Integrating Systemic Awareness and Nonviolence into Our Teaching

Video Conference • 4.5 hours (1.5 hours per session)

Video Conference
4.5 hours (1.5 hours per session)
  • Learn how to transform NVC into a tool for systemic awareness and healing
  • Examine the influence of difference, and uncover pathways that strengthen its capacity
  • Learn to receive and offer feedback on impact in situations fraught with power differences
  • Explore specific ways in which NVC systemically supports the full flowering of humanity
  • Delve into the dynamics of cultural differences, and discover how NVC can systemically contribute to a liberation perspective

Self Acceptance

Video (Public) • 6 minutes
All Skill Levels
Video (Public)
6 minutes
NVC helps us translate any judgments we may be holding – towards ourselves or others – into feelings and needs that connect us to our humanity. We are not perfect. We have never done anything wrong, and we have never done anything right.

Intention and Effect

Article • 12 - 18 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes

When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.


 
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