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Empathy Buddy Guidelines

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 2 - 3 minutes
Here are some guidelines and agreements for creating empathy buddy sessions. Includes a list of blocks to empathy.
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Engage Your Curiosity

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.
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Needs-Based Negotiation

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When we create situations that value one person’s needs at the expense of another, we open the door for someone to lose. Instead, look to see if you can speak openly and honestly, value the other person’s needs, and create solutions that value all stakeholder needs.
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Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Practice Exercise  •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
This guide features three activities that use feelings and needs cards: two verions of "Feelings and Needs Poker" and one for "Self Empathy". Great for practicing alone, with a partner, or in a group.
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Meeting Our Need for Support

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Asking for support may feel awkward and uncomfortable. In these moments, we may forget that everyone needs support. We may also forget that there may be many options available to us, even if what's available isn't our preferred source of support.
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Starting the Future Today

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All Skill Levels  •  Article  •  Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
We can dream and wait for the day to do things differently, or we can continually take steps towards the future of our dreams as though it were here now. The future will not be significantly different from the present if we all act as if change is not possible or only possible after it's already happened. Instead, we can immediately consider everything we do as the possible seed of change beyond our wildest dreams and vision.
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Meeting Our Needs

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Discovering the unmet needs is only a starting point. The other part is to understand what it will take to meet that need, and make a request that will accomplish this. This way, we can resolve situations before they escalate. Everyone benefits when we are clear about what we would like.
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Does Anyone Deserve Anything?

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 13 - 20 minutes
Our world trains us to think in terms of providing for everyone’s needs because they deserve it, earned it, or they possess the resources -- it's fair, socially just, supports equality or because people have rights. Instead, can we step outside this worldview to look at providing for everyone’s needs because those needs exist -- can we hold this basic reverence for life? Are we able to have a needs-based dialogue when such a reframe could alienate those who live in the worldview of earn/deserve?
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Beyond “Yes, And:” Acknowledging the “Oops” and “Ouches”

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
How can we respond when we’re horrified by what someone says? How can we deepen our connection to our humanness and authenticity when the impact is hurtful? Read on to see examples of the three steps of "calling out", "calling in", and "calling forth".
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Clarifying Our Needs

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Beginner Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: We often find ourselves slipping into old behaviors that we would rather change. This is because we don’t have a new plan for responding to the same old situations. In that case, notice whether you are slipping into old behaviors today. Connect to your unmet needs and then identify a new strategy for the situation.
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