All Intermediate Resources

Intention and Effect

with Miki Kashtan

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

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Setting Boundaries with Reactivity

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4-6 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4-6 minutes

Tolerating reactivity, name-calling, blaming, guilt-tripping, or stonewalling can lead to resentment and hurt. Plus, the more you stay in a reactive dynamic, the more you are likely to reinforce the pattern. Setting life-serving boundaries arund reactivity is about letting another know that you aren’t going to participate in that kinds of dynamics. This means knowing what helps with handling difficulties and asking for that.

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Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities

with Roxy Manning

Advanced Skill Level • Article • Read time: 15 - 23 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 15 - 23 minutes

The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common pitfalls of doing so.

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Why Can't People Just Live Peacefully With Each Other?

with Bob Wentworth

Intermediate Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes

Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes

Perhaps human violence persists because we believe that violence is inevitable and there's nothing we can do about it -— even though there is notable evidence that this is likely not true. Read on for some research and theory on how cultures evolve to be collaborative or violent. Plus, learn benefits of collaboration and downsides to force, punishment, and control. These provide implications for how we might move towards a culture of more peace.

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Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

with Bob Wentworth

Intermediate Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 7 - 11 minutes

With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often experience. Read on for ways to transform pitfalls of NVC into more reliable connection.

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Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? - Part 2

with Miki Kashtan

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 18 - 27 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 18 - 27 minutes

We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks reinforcing vast inequities and abuses if we're not radically engaging systemic constraints, and impacts of our choices that go beyond our immediate circle. Read on for ways to leverage NVC practices to expand true social change.

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Apart and Together: Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times

with Miki Kashtan

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

This pandemic is an immense opportunity, and a dire catastrophe in the making. It's a crisis within many planetary crisis's -- during which, our habits as individuals, and as a collective, are challenged because they don't work. And we are pushed to respond freshly and join forces in ways that seemed impossible before. Read on for more about this first in a series of articles.

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Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (complete course)

with Kelly Bryson

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 7-10 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
7-10 hours

Join Kelly Bryson and go Psychologically and Spiritually Spelunking into your own Caverns of Consciousness, using the inner mining tools of NVC Self-Empathy, Progoff Journaling processes, Focusing, and individual work. Get self-empathy tools that will help you rejuvenate yourself and your relationships.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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Dialogue with Anyone About Anything (complete course)

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 4 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 hours

A chosen, interdependent world… In most cases, that's sure not the world we live in today, is it. But it could be the world we live in tomorrow. And you can choose to be part of bringing that better world to life – to be part of a gradual, joyful transformation – simply by using the dynamic, living power of Dialogue.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

with Miki Kashtan

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes

The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.

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