Library Resources with blame

Tolerating reactivity, name-calling, blaming, guilt-tripping, or stonewalling can lead to resentment and hurt. Plus, the more you stay in a reactive dynamic, the more you are likely to reinforce the pattern. Setting life-serving boundaries arund reactivity is about letting another know that you aren’t going to participate in that kinds of dynamics. This means knowing what helps with handling difficulties and asking for that.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4-6 minutes
  • Production Date 12/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to resist a request made from this stance. Instead, here are practices to increasingly losen any remaining attachment or demand energy -- and open our hearts to ourselves and others while we make requests.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Being self-responsible is about empowerment — via noticing what is potentially in our locus of control, getting to know ourselves better, looking at our own role in how we experience life, and making conscious choices to act within our own power. This requires us to be mindful in relating our stories to our needs. Read on for more on this, and the various pifalls within thinking about self responsibility.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
  • Production Date 12/2011
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2011
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for self and others -- and perpetuating an oppressive status quo. However, with this lens we can make greater compassion and collective liberation possible. Even as the outcome is unknown.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2019
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 10
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles
Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members N/A
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips

Taking 100% Responsibility offers a powerful antidote to the all-too-common dynamic of blaming that leaves you in the victim position and unable to have the relationship you want. Miki invites you to assume a stance of leadership while holding full care for both parties’ needs. No longer will you need to wait for the other person to change, nor will you need to give up your needs to reach harmony.

The preview session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 hours
  • Production Date 04/17/2015
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Most of us believe we are powerless at work – even if we’re the one “in charge.” This course offers you the opportunity to learn how to consciously change this mindset, and have a positive impact on workplace culture and attitudes along the way. Most of us believe we are powerless at work – even if we’re the one “in charge.” This course offers you the opportunity to learn how to consciously change this mindset, and have a positive impact on workplace culture and attitudes along the way.

The preview session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 hours
  • Production Date 06/12/2015
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio
Francois shares the benefits of living in the Blame Free State, the state of the heart that has no enemies.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 00:34 hours:minutes
  • Production Date 08/16/2014
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio

Learn tools to help you reconnect and repair your relationship with your adult children. Whether the issues are estrangement, lack of trust, conflict, dependence, miscommunication or any other challenge that impacts you with your grown sons and daughters, your heart will find comfort and ease through this course.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 hours
  • Production Date 09/05/2013
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio
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