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How I Changed My Relationship to Time

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above…

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short…

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice…

Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8-12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 8-12 minutes
Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors,…

Privilege and Needs - Part 1

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
There's the real need. And then there's the privilege that’s offered as a substitute for it. Privilege substitutes support the existing structure of society. It can look to us as if giving up the privilege would amount to giving up everything -- if we don't…

Connected Decision Making

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 2-3 minutes
If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.

Angry and Taken Advantage of

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4-6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4-6 minutes
Finding your power in seemingly powerless situations doesn't mean denying what happened, your feelings, your needs, nor the behavior of others that didn't meet needs. It does mean reexamining those situations with the intention to compassionately look for your contribution and for clues to your…

Equanimity and the Holidays

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 2-3 minutes
If you're unpleasantly triggered during the holidays you may find yourself responding in ways you don't like. Start by acknowledging how affected you are to bring in more curiosity, mindfulness and eventually, authentic and discerning choices.

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 1

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
In groups, relationships and society we may not want to dominate or take away from others’ access to power, to choice, to participation in decisions, nor to shaping the vision and direction of the dynamic. And yet how do we do it anyway without knowing…

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 11 - 16 minutes
When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and…

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