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Help for Overwhelm

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 3-5 minutes
Reducing overwhelm requires you to reconnect with your authentic choice, be present and compassionate with what's happening, heal trauma, and interrupt the trauma response. Read on for ways that may help you reconnect with your choice, presence and more on trauma.

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy.…

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding…

Money, Needs, and Resources

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 9 - 13 minutes
Unless we change our collective ways on the planet, we will one day exceed the earth’s carrying capacity. We can only address the planet's very real limits of physical resources at the level of social organization. To operate empathically is to adjust our collective social…

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 3-5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 3-5 minutes
In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender…

How I Changed My Relationship to Time

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above…

Privilege and Needs - Part 1

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
There's the real need. And then there's the privilege that’s offered as a substitute for it. Privilege substitutes support the existing structure of society. It can look to us as if giving up the privilege would amount to giving up everything -- if we don't…

Connected Decision Making

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 2-3 minutes
If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice…

Angry and Taken Advantage of

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4-6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
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Read time: 4-6 minutes
Finding your power in seemingly powerless situations doesn't mean denying what happened, your feelings, your needs, nor the behavior of others that didn't meet needs. It does mean reexamining those situations with the intention to compassionately look for your contribution and for clues to your…

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